The sign of Scorpio represents sex and is ruled by both Mars and Pluto, our planets of instincts and primal sexuality. The main difference between Scorpio and Aries, also ruled by Mars is in the fact that Scorpio is a feminine sign, turned to the emotional sexual connection rather than anything else. This man can be anything, from a soft-hearted, wonderful and tender lover, to a sexual deviant, a pervert that will scare his partners away. This depends on his level of restriction and inhibition, emotional or sexual, and it is sometimes hard to understand.
Scorpio is the sign of deep bonding and extreme detachment, making him a bit schizophrenic about intimacy. Closeness frightens him, because deep down, he fears separation. Abandonment issues? He’s got ‘em for days. While he longs to merge souls with you, another part of him is terrified to lose control. He feels pain at a deeper level than any other sign, and breakups can haunt him for decades. To protect himself, he’ll try to keep some sense of “space” in the relationship—having a long-distance relationship, working late, or keeping his own apartment. If you push him to take a step before he’s ready, he’ll draw back. This could go on for years until he feels “ready” (read: safe enough) to come a centimeter closer.
He is deep, emotional, loyal and giving, right to the point when he gets hurt by the smallest thing. He can be painfully honest, liberating and obvious in his character and intentions, but he can also be mistrustful, possessive and jealous, and even aggressive when looking for vengeance.
Within moments of meeting this guy, you may find yourself divulging all your deepest secrets. When in love, Scorpion men are known to be notoriously jealous and possessive, even displaying stalker-like tendencies once you’ve walked away. This is because, like wolves, most of these guys desire a mate for life – and if they’ve connected to you deeply, and really let you in, they want to keep going all the way. Casual dating and meaningless relationships rarely appeal to these men, who love in a way that is fiercely devoted and all-consuming. Once you’ve committed to each other and you’ve been allowed into his inner sanctum and the private recesses of his heart, he will treat you like the royalty you are and lavish his sensual talents on you until you’re gasping for mercy.
The best advice? Pay attention. He may not drop subtle hints or circle things in magazines he leaves lying about, but keep a closer eye on what he lingers over while you’re window shopping together, or what he buys for himself.
To attract a Scorpio man, don’t dress too provocatively. Remember, he likes a sense of mystery so don’t reveal too much. Show him that you’re interested in a wide range of subjects and that you enjoy pondering the secrets of the universe. Once you’re in a relationship with a Scorpio man, try your best to keep him guessing and on his toes. He usually bores rather quickly, so hold his attention by gradually feeding him bits and pieces of information about yourself. Always be honest, however, and never lie to him about anything. Never give him any reason to doubt your fidelity. Even harmless flirting on your part can throw him into a temper tantrum. Once you’ve lost the trust and respect of a Scorpio man, you might never regain it.
The Scorpio man needs space, but he also needs you to lay down limits. Don’t give him an all-access pass to your life (are you listening, Sagittarius, Leo and Gemini ladies?). He needs an edge of mystery, some part of you that he’ll never figure out. Dancing this fine line can be exhausting and unrewarding for some women, and we don’t recommend it unless it comes naturally.
Behind every Scorpio man’s relationship style is…his mom. He has a complicated, love/hate relationship with his mother that can border on Oedipal. Cutting the cord isn’t easy for him, and his resulting behavior pattern can be tricky to navigate. He fears that every woman wants to “engulf” him, yet he constantly creates situations where he needs to be mothered by his mate. You may have to endure a “come-here-now-go-away” drama until he realizes you’re not trying to control him. He’ll need to take baby steps to let you in.
The darker aspects of human sexuality and love often come to the forefront when dealing with a Scorpio man. He loves to delve into his partner’s innermost fears and secret desires, and to find the spaces within them where they are most vulnerable.
Although he can seem commitment-phobic, he takes marriage and relationships more seriously than mafia initiation. He cherishes trust and honesty—at least your honesty. On the other hand, you may never quite know where he stands. But that’s part of the adventure with a Scorpio. Just when you think you’ve got him figured out, he throws you a curve. Stay on your toes, and he might just sweep you off your feet.
Still waters run deep with this one, so make no mistake – most Scorpios have deep-seated emotions and are incredibly sensitive, even though they may seem like the most confident guy you’ve ever met. Passionate, mysterious, and unbelievably romantic, Scorpios represent Pluto, the God of the Underworld (and one of their planetary rulers, along with Mars, God of War).
Fascinating Scorpio oozes charm and a magnetism that’s practically impossible to ignore. Women are naturally attracted to him, sensing his deep appreciation for romance. Somewhat of an enigma, the Scorpio’s demeanor is usually cool and calm, but inside, there may be numerous flames of passion. The Scorpion has intense feelings about almost everything, although he often does a good job of hiding them. Scorpio men have a powerful sex drive, and are adventurous in the bedroom. He’s also very romantic, but may never show his true feelings about you in public. However, when the two of you are alone you’ll be showered with his intense attention.
Games of strategy like chess will engage their minds, and they would be even happier if you’ll take time to play with them. When buying them clothes, you won’t go wrong with black or red, and they tend to like scents that are warm and spicy. Jewelry usually appeals to a Scorpion man, especially something from a far-off land – like heavy amber from Africa.
As everything else that is black and white in his world, so is trust. He can either be unconditionally trusted and relied on, or entirely detached and painfully distant, making choices with no regard to anyone else’s feelings. He has the need to always speak his mind and in general, he will speak the truth. We might even say that his biggest joy lies in giving his observations of the hard truth that nobody wants to deal with. However, if he is angry enough, at his partner, his mother, or the entire world, he could be that quiet man that you can look at all day long, and still not recognize his intentions or his thoughts.
Once you’re in, should you make it that far, you’ll feel like a goddess. The Scorpio man is a wholly different creature once he surrenders to trust. He lets you be totally sexually expressed while feeling fully respected. There’s no Madonna/whore conflict. The more you fly your freak flag, the more he pledges allegiance.
There will usually be a strong initial attraction between the Scorpio man and the Libra woman, but it might take some work for a serious relationship to grow. The Scales will feel much too confined by the possessive Scorpion, and he’ll have trouble understanding her light-hearted approach to love and romance.
With finances, Scorpio men may enjoy playing the stock market or investing in intricate money-making schemes. They may have funds socked away in secret accounts for emergencies, and they might not always be completely above board in their financial dealings. Inheritance often plays into their stories, but they may never be explicit about how much they’ve received or from what source.
This lair-like theme may extend to other rooms of his house, with heavy draperies over the windows and dark-painted walls. Natural light isn’t often super important for these nocturnal creatures who may be much more interested in showing you their night light that projects stars all over the ceiling, or screening movies with their own projector.
Scorpio is the sign of death and rebirth, the mythic Phoenix rising from the ashes of destruction. You may have several breakups or relationship phases en route to fully committing. Though they will be harrowing for you, he considers these fiery emotional trials a purification ritual. In his mind, the more your relationship withstands turmoil, the more “real” your connection is. Hardcore? You bet.
When on a date, this man will care for his partner as if they were royalty. He wants to see a tender soul in his partner, someone who needs his protection and holds on to values and convictions without a doubt. He will borrow his sweater when it is chilly outside, but there is no guarantee he won’t take it back and become unpleasant as you say something that hurts him for unknown reasons. There is a great chance he won’t speak much, slow in his decisions, movements and change. He will take you to places that he finds romantic, and this could be anything from his basement or a dark hole of a club, to a vampire gathering in his front yard. Depending on his previous relationships, he can be quite open on the first date and show his true self immediately, or be hard to crack, always on the watch of getting hurt again.
Because Scorpios have so many interests, you’ll find them almost anywhere. They love a luxurious lifestyle, so look for them in the best restaurants, clothing stores and fashionable clubs. The Scorpion is a natural leader who loves to manage others, so you might find one working as a CEO or another leadership role. Anything mystical or mysterious will grab Scorpio’s interest, so he might frequent stores that cater to astrology, UFOs, magic, Bigfoot or any other of the world’s mysteries.
He expects and assumes that no one really knows him or will bother taking the time to deduce his secret wants, so if you can solve his cryptic riddle, you’ll win major points of respect and appreciation with your Scorpion man.
It could be a rocky start for the Capricorn woman and Scorpio man. The Goat often lacks the passion Scorpio thrives on. But if Scorpio takes his time, he may get her to open up and share her feelings, which can be the beginning of a strong relationship of respect, trust and loyalty.
Bonnie and Clyde. Sid and Nancy. Brangelina. The Scorpio man is looking for an iconic relationship, a hall of fame soulmate story—and he refuses to settle for less. He may give his body, even his name or DNA. But until he finds his mythic other half, the person who makes him look and feel like a god, he’ll never give his soul.
A relationship a Scorpio man and Scorpio woman will be one of intense passion and romance. Each will understand the emotional needs of the other. Problems can arise when both partners feel that they’re right and the other is completely wrong, causing heated arguments.
The Gemini woman will need to reign in her flirtatious and outgoing nature if she’s going to build a lasting relationship with suspicious Scorpio. The Twins are also flighty and capricious, which Scorpio may interpret as immature and superficial.
Scorpio will share a lot of physical chemistry with the Aries woman, but their personalities may clash. The Ram often is too dominating for Scorpio’s taste. Also, she’s a natural flirt, which can be a problem for the possessive Scorpion.
Scorpio men are infamous for being reclusive geniuses, best when left to their own devices to intently focus on the work at hand. If you can trust their voracious intelligence and relentless work ethic, they will come through every time – but try not to micromanage or give them the idea that you don’t trust them because they can’t help but take that sort of thing so personally that it might completely disrupt the work environment.
This man’s bedroom may be a space you won’t be invited to enter unless you’ve really proven that you want to know him deeply. Many Scorpio men will construct elaborate canopies around their bed to block out light while they sleep or to create an insular and intimate environment for sexual explorations.
Planning what exactly, you may ask? Well, the truth is, they may not even know, but they can’t help themselves from doing it all the same. Life for these men is like a giant chessboard – and they prefer to strategize carefully, always staying seven steps ahead of the game. Not much for small talk, a Scorpio man will saunter into the party and quietly observe the action. Don’t let his reticence trick you into thinking that he’s not paying attention – even the smallest details are filed away for later use, especially if he’s taken an interest in you.
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