If an Aquarius does sign on for the long haul, he needs to be handled with care. Once his heart is invested, the Aqaurius man can be hypersensitive and overly intense—no longer the cool, devil-may-care dude holding court at the party. As Gary says, “My problem is I think too much, break down and analyze everything. If a woman is late, I think it means she doesn’t care.”
The Aquarius man will never be in a relationship for relationship’s sake. But to fulfill a vision, or live out a future that inspires and excites him with endless possibility? He’s in. “It’s all about having the whole future mapped,” says Gary. If you fit with his master plan, pack your sleeping bag and hiking shoes. You never know where you’ll end up—but he will remain by your side, no matter where that is.
As a father, the Aquarius male is a patient listener and an excellent shot at math problems. He can be instrumental in letting the children discover their innate abilities and talents through creative and imaginative ways. Money matters will never really be a problem because the resourceful Aquarius male will often have something to be generous, just do not be overly extravagant about your expenses. What the Aquarius husband wants is a partner who can give him the space as much as he gives her space.
The home of an Aquarian man can feel a little bit like the workshop of a mad scientist – often with elements of his current projects scattered about, or some experiment taking place in the middle of the kitchen table (or in the refrigerator). He’s always got some bizarre new hobby taking up space in his life, and he rarely gets rid of the remnants of his past enchantments once they’ve lost their glamour.
However, in his mid- to late 30s, the Aquarius man may finally decide to reckon with those demons known as feelings. He might plunge into a philosophical movement or a spiritual modality to explore his emotions safely, in an almost scientific way. (Either that, or he smokes a lot of weed and feels those funny sensations—love! anger! sadness!—that are so foreign to him otherwise.)
He likes objects that combine both form and function, and anything that appeals to his childlike sense of curiosity will be a natural winner with an Aquarian’s inquisitive personality and voracious hunger for knowledge. Don’t make the mistake of gifting this guy anything too run-of-the-mill – playing it safe with a boring gift will fail to capture his attention, and he may interpret anything too practical as a lack of interest on your part.
Books, magazines, comics, and beautiful art prints always captivate his cerebral intellect – and the more oddball, the better. If you are willing to dig through stacks of tomes at an antiquarian bookseller to find the obscure medical textbook of his dreams or a rare printing of some controversial political pamphlet, you will see this air sign’s eyes light up. He loves to ponder, to wonder, and to let his mind wander – so give him something that will hold his focus.
He’s the kind of guy who many people are curious about, but few people ever truly understand. Much of this is due to the fact that these men are often perceived as being either ahead their time, or having ideas that are so radical and new that most people aren’t ready to hear them. Aquarius men often feel removed from most of society, and thrive best when they find a few like-minded individuals with whom they can share their far-seeing visions of the future.
Aquarians delight in delving into the universal mysteries of life, and are often curious about spirituality, concepts of oneness, and unity. But as much as he’s all about working together toward common goals, he may put others off with his odd ideas and quirky tactics. However, this man has immense conviction, and his intense focus will usually sway his teammates to see his point of view eventually.
Interdependence is the name of his game. In fact, it was our Aquarius friend Miguel who first introduced us to this term when describing his perfect relationship. You both have full lives, then come together voluntarily, to unwind, grow and have fun. He longs to coexist, rather than merge. Of course, this can only happen once the free-spirited Aquarius man actually decides he’s ready for a relationship. When you’re from another planet, bonding with humans can be hard, after all. He can be aloof and awkward, hesitant to commit. The Aquarius man doesn’t want to be tied to one woman until he’s sampled the whole panacea of options.
They are very soft-spoken and polite, but it is to be kept in mind that they are fundamentally non-conformist people. They don’t mind going against social norms or popular opinions when they want to bring about important changes in the world they live in. Developmental activities and research interest them a lot, but they don’t shy away from doing social work too.
Definitely, definitely no ultimatums with this guy. You’ll lose him faster than that guy in the “How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days” movie. No way is he going to make a serious commitment because you’re being pushy. He’ll be pushy right back and pull a disappearing act on you. This one’s full of magic tricks I tell you. The way to this guy’s heart is to be there for him. He has to know you have his back. When he needs someone to talk to because he’s had a bad day, be that person. If he makes a joke, laugh. (It’ll be funny I promise). He also needs to know that you won’t intrude on his guy time. This guy is very social and has lots of friends so make sure he’s allowed to have nights where he can just go out with them without you freaking out and giving him a hard time. If you do, that’s only going to push him further away. Once he figures out that you’re a pretty cool chick who makes his life better, he’ll make the commitment to you and only you and he’ll be faithful, but until then everything is fair game.
His loyalty and faithfulness will greatly impact on his married life although his general friendliness towards almost all people may tend to cast a shadow of jealousy on him. The partner of the Aquarius man can depend on his honesty such that doubting him should be the least of your concerns, lest you enjoy testing his patience. He may have some periods of silence and it is generally more appropriate to leave him alone for the meantime.
Once he learns how to process his emotions, this humanitarian sign wants to share what he’s learned on his quest. Like a butterfly emerging from its cocoon, the prank-pulling eternal jokester emerges as the ultimate SNAG (Sensitive New Age Guy). Formerly squeamish about anything more touchy-feely than a backslapping hug or a high five, he suddenly starts training for his massage license, or becomes an eager volunteer to give out shoulder rubs.
These men can be very unpredictable. They never have a fixed pattern when it comes to how they behave or what they are going to do next. For instance, you may be thinking that they are enjoying the good times and expect them to go off on an adventurous journey, but they may surprise you by getting into meditation.
A typical Aquarius man shows genuine interest in others, sometimes even to the point of probing further deeper into other people’s lives and their inner feelings. He is considered a person’s person that almost any other person he meets becomes a friend of his. However, he is rather choosy in the friends he wishes to include in his inner circle. So long as the person fits the Aquarian male’s repertoire of likes and dislikes, he is included in the inner circle.
An Aquarius man is a very unique creature to say the least. I’ve dated a few of them and I can honestly say I’ve never been bored. Their ability to talk and hold a conversation can entertain me for hours. They’re just so fascinating! I could be in an empty room with them with nothing to do, and yet I would never be bored if an Aquarius man was with me. If you want someone who’s boring and predictable, this is definitely not the sign for you. You may think you know the Aquarius man, but then he turns around and does a complete 180 and you have to stop and question everything you thought you knew about him. You just never know what’s he going to do next and that’s part of the fun. You also never know what’s he going to say next either. One minute you’re talking about the global warming, next he’s wondering what you watched on TV last night. He will definitely keep you on your toes but you’ll love every minute of it because when’s the last time you knew a guy like this? Probably never..
The thing with Aquarius men is that they can fear commitment, initially. You can’t box them in and make them feel less independent and macho, that’s just not going to work. If they feel like you’re closing in and taking over their lives, they will push further way from you until they completely disappear from your life for good. You have to let them initiate talks of commitment and moving forward in your relationship. He has to be the one to bring it up, not you. Think of him like a tiny puppy. If you make too much noise and keep petting him, he’s just going to run away scared and avoid you, but if you whisper sweetly and gently play with him, he’ll roll over on his back and let you rub his tummy. Letting you rub his tummy means he trusts you. You must get the Aquarius guy to trust you before he’ll even consider making the relationship more serious.
The realm of ideas and creativity is where an Aquarian man will truly flourish. And bringing people together to help humanity is always of the utmost importance to this cerebral air sign, who uses his mind and formidable intelligence to attempt to solve age-old problems. He is motivated by the idea of Utopia and creating a better world for all people, but sometimes loses himself in the big picture and can’t quite work out the little details necessary to get his would-be castle in the sky off the ground.
These guys are often hilarious, with a zany sense of humor that borders on the absurd. This is a tool they use to charm the pants off whomever they’re flirting with at the moment – which could be a few people at the same time. They’re notorious bachelors, so it often takes someone extremely forgiving to put up with the infamous Aquarian eccentricities long-term, and they may go through a few marriages or partnerships before they find a really compatible match. Are you and your Aquarius compatible? Find out here.
If you go out on the town with an Aquarian, you may notice that he seems to know everybody, saying hi to the servers and gallery owners wherever he goes – but who really knows him? Few people are patient enough to really peel back the layers and discover what makes this guy tick.
When not permanently bonded, the Aquarian man can take a businesslike air to sex, romance, or when he’s in love. These relationships can feel purely transactional, and he may prefer to just have “friends with benefits” arrangements. He can have a detached and even humorous attitude towards sexuality – and is known for being callous and leaving a trail of broken hearts behind him.
Ideally, the Aquarian man will put his genius traits to work helping out charitable organizations, or being a part of creative movements. You’ll often find this Water-Bearing wizard working with music festivals, teaching college students about transgressive politics, or trying to discover cures for terminal illnesses. Whatever he does, you can count on his profession being somewhat out of left field, and always completely unexpected.
Saving money can be an issue for the Aquarian man, but his charm and charisma have a way of attracting rich investors who believe in his wild visions for the future. When he can manage his finances prudently, he can end up becoming extremely wealthy.
Aquarian men are frequently perceived as wacky geniuses, full of brilliant plans and concepts, but not always capable of bringing these to fruition. They are social personalities who move in extremely varied circles – like the zany high school guy who was somehow able to move smoothly between the jocks, the nerds, and the freaks with little friction, getting along well with everyone.
These men are complete originals, refusing to conform to society’s standards and expectations. This may be displayed in their clothing, choice of profession, or political viewpoints, but it will always be obvious in their unconventional choice of mate. They often want to be with someone who’s even more transgressive and unusual than they are, and they frequently pair with a fellow Aquarian.
Aquarians rarely have conventional, boring desk jobs, much preferring to create their own schedules and not be limited by inhibiting corporate structures or lots of rules that don’t give them free reign to stretch the limits of their imaginations.
Considering that love is just another human experience for him, the Aquarius man is never comfortable with the idea of getting married because of the prolonged emotional demands of the opposite sex. Furthermore, his idea of having a friend in his wife is something that is not so distant from the Aquarian.
The Aquarius men tend to be idealists and it is difficult for an average person to live up to their high expectations. Their relationships, both personal and professional, may suffer despite their genuine attempts to adjust to circumstances. They have a major problem with commitment as they don’t like to compromise on their independence. This reluctance to commit may pose a hurdle, especially when it comes to romantic relationships.
As an arbiter of social change and champion for mankind, Aquarius is like a light shining in the darkness – provided he doesn’t get too lost in his own unique perspective and end up lost in a fervor of rhetoric like a 1960s cult leader who’s alienated his flock.
They are enthusiastic, witty, affectionate and social. However, they will not get emotionally close to people easily. They will maintain some distance. But once they are sure of things, the Aquarius men will go out of their way to help friends.
An Aquarian man’s personality often makes for diffident, somewhat distracted dads. They are much more interested in their progeny when the kids have learned to walk and talk, and they can take part in their education and engage in conversation. They shine their brightest when they learn to show empathy for their children’s emotions. Play and silliness come naturally to an Aquarius dad, and he will always be happy to let his children express themselves and evolve into whoever they want to be.
Don’t be surprised to know that when you’re first starting to date him, he’s probably dating a few other girls as well. It’s not that he’s a jerk or a player, he just hasn’t made a serious commitment to any of them so he’s playing the field. After two weeks of seeing you, and probably a few other girls, you can’t come out and have the relationship talk. It’s way too soon. He has to make up his mind about you first. When he does, he’ll drop the other girls quick. It just has to be his idea and not yours. This guy can be very loyal and faithful, but it’s got to be on his terms. He has to think it’s all his idea and you had nothing to do with it. The way to do that is at least at first, make sure he initiates contact. Let him call, text, or Facebook you first. Once you’re seriously dating, then you can talk whenever you feel like it, but in the delicate early stages, make him work for it. He’ll appreciate you that much more trust me.
Forget the melodrama if you want to set the bait on winning an Aquarius man. Guys under this sign will not dive into an emotional conversation. The trick is to be his best friend, be sincere and straightforward and be prepared to talk about topics that interest this man of the future – yes, you can talk about the ozone layer. Physically, Aquarius men love the unconventional so it’s okay if you can carry colors and lines that shock people on other ends of the zodiac. These guys are naturally attracted to taller ladies but don’t feel bad if you are vertically challenged.
If you’re debating whether you want to give an Aquarius guy a try or not, definitely do! You (probably) won’t regret it. If nothing else you’ll have a good story to tell your best friends about next time you’re having dinner and drinks. He may be peculiar and downright strange sometimes, but isn’t that better then bored and unoriginal? You’ll never be bored with this guy and you’ll never be able to figure out what he’s thinking or about to say next because he’s so unpredictable. He’s like that roller coaster that’s supposed to be the biggest and funnest around. Sure when you get up close, you might think you know what’s it all about, but you never really know until you get on because those twists and turns get crazy. You might get a little dizzy, sure, but the adrenaline rush you get just might be worth it..
The aforementioned Aquarius Dr. Lobster has founded a movement called Modern Romantic Completionism. Another Aquarius man we know founded Cuddle Party, a national series of sex- and substance-free workshops where people get together in their pajamas and just…cuddle. His website describes the event as a “playful, fun workshop…for people to rediscover non-sexual touch and affection, a space to reframe assumptions about men and women, and a great networking event to meet new friends, roommates, business partners and significant others.” Classic Aquarius.
This inquisitive nature of the Aquarian male does not extend to himself, though. He is rather secretive about his feelings and purposely makes his reactions complex just for the fun of fooling others. This is the reason why, despite being friendly and all to everyone, his inner circle of friends are those who reflect his interests and know how his mind works. Do not let his gentleness and calm fool you because deep inside is his true introverted nature. It is not wise to provoke him nor to exploit him or his inner circle of friends because his tolerance for such is short.
When it comes to relationships, the Aquarius man will settle for nothing short of a sexual and romantic revolution. Like a bedside Che Guevera, he wants to shake up love as we know it and bring romance solidly into the 21st century—or perhaps even the 22nd.
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