When in love, these men can be possessed by a fleeting temper that can flare up unexpectedly. But they don’t tend to stay mad for long – unless you really cross them, in which case, you’re pretty much dead to them. That combustibility can implode a romance and create a tendency to burn bridges. Are you compatible with your Aries man? Find out here.
Aries see themselves as leaders. While it’s true they are indeed leaders, they lead by action and not by planning or intellectual process. This can be good or bad depending on the situation. They are arguably the most spontaneous sign, and as such the most prone to regret things later.
Going the extra mile will make him feel special – he wants to feel like he matters, so show him that he does by giving him gifts that are meant for him and him alone. Your Aries man is an original – there’s no one else quite like him, so don’t think for an instant that a Hallmark card or something you picked up at the mall is going to cut it. If anyone else has it, he probably doesn’t want it.
He is not much of a romantic and will probably do things by the book. He will bring you red roses, take you to a fine restaurant and might put you in a limousine if he really wants to seduce you. When you go to the movies, he will buy tickets for the new action thriller, even though you would like to see a romantic comedy and order a huge meat stake in the restaurant, even if you are a vegetarian. He will expect to have sex on your first date and will go on expecting it every time you see each other. Your phone conversations will be short, messages rare, except if you create a hot line you would use for sexual interaction when you are not in a position to see each other.
Home is a place to crash, to change clothes, and maybe to roll in the hay – so don’t be surprised if your Aries paramour invites himself over to your place much more often. In fact, you may never see his space at all, unless you happen to share it with him. In which case, get ready to finish up the dishes he started to do before he got bored and moved on to something else, and make sure that wet laundry gets into the dryer before it starts to mildew. He’ll definitely begin a chore with great enthusiasm, but often get distracted by something new that absolutely needs doing before the first thing is ever completed.
Aries loves to flirt and enjoys every nuance of that first attraction. If a woman catches his interest, he will all but stand on his head to get her attention. Like a schoolboy, his approach can be annoying and even overwhelming. When he is rejected, as he often is (because his approach is not for everyone), he bounces back and is happy to keep trying. His heart is easily (if temporarily) broken, but nothing can keep this man down.
Online relationships and long distance relationships have unique challenges. One of these is that you get to see one side of someone very clearly: their personality. You don’t however get to see anything about other factors such as sexual attraction. My compatibility reports address this by scoring all factors alongside each other so you can see the whole picture, with any strong or weak areas highlighted. To explore this further please see my article on online relationships.
Let’s start with a disclaimer: you might not like what you hear. Or, you might just shout “finally!” The Aries man has a very specific, grand and demanding vision for his ultimate relationship. In life, he orders everything customized to his tastes, and those tastes are very particular. He may not subconsciously realize that human beings, imbued with things like personalities and free will, can’t conform to his fantasies on demand. He’d rather just find that “needle in the haystack” relationship, the impossible dream come true. When he finds that, he gives it every ounce of his being. He turns off the selfish switch and pours on the giving. So why would he do that for just anyone?
In your care and treatment of this special man, you need to be sure to pepper your physical demonstrations with a lot of sincere words. Everyone needs to hear those loving words, but Aries has a deeper need than other signs. Don’t be stingy with the praise. Just make sure you’re sincere because Aries has a built-in radar for insincerity. If he suspects you’re playing him, all you’ll see is the dust as he takes off on his motorcycle or in his sports car.
If your sights are set on Aries, the last thing you want to do is chase him. Aries is all about the chase, but he prefers to be the hunter. He enjoys the art of pursuit, especially the first moves of flirting, and he’s very good at each stage of the chase. Enjoy the attention and don’t give in too soon or the excitement will be over once he catches up with you. The harder he must try to win your attention, the greater he’ll consider his win. After all, he’s number one and believes he deserves only the best.
Leo ladies, your passion could blind you to mundane realities. This exciting partnership often gets off to an amazing start, and then compensates for a lack of energy down the road with unnecessary drama. Provide him some peace once in a while.
An Aries man lives for adrenaline, change, excitement, and novelty – so if you want to give him gifts, choose skydiving lessons, martial arts classes, or an exciting surprise vacation to somewhere he’s never been before. Surprises of all kinds are welcome here – the Ram is a sign who actually enjoys being caught a little off-guard, and will totally respect you for being able to pull off a surprise party without him finding out.
This enthusiastic lot is always ready for adventure and excitement. Besides, they love surprises as they keep them engaged and mentally stimulated. Anything predictable and/ or straight from the text-book dampens their spirits.
Everything sharp, red colored and hot will be a good fit. If he doesn’t already have a collection, you can always buy him a Swiss knife, a set of tools, a hunter’s hat, a flame thrower or a pair of sexy boxers. He will be happy if you show how masculine and strong he is, and give him something practical to use. Don’t obsess about his presents if you will have any resulting expectations – he will never obsess about yours.
An Aries man is usually very sure of his sexuality. He is not afraid to show initiative and is very proud of his body, even when his belly spills a little over his belt. It is easy to feel attractive in his arms, since he is always interested in sex, however messy you might look. Aries man appreciates when his sexual partner shows interest in his body and feels confident and secure enough to show their own. He has little patience for insecurity, shame and overall lack of confidence, so breathe in deeply and openly show how beautiful you are.
When you want a jolt of non-stop energy and a curious mind that never stops, you are looking for an Aries. When you are interested in someone who will respect your space and your individuality, an Aries man is hard to surpass. If it is acceptance that you crave, along with some distance to balance the intimacy between you two, an Aries man is quite suited for your needs.
Aries is a fire sign, and this man has enough passion for several men. This can be a problem for the less mature Aries, who has not learned about boundaries and may not be willing to hear a ‘no’. An immature Aries can be infantile about sexuality; he wants what he wants now and can’t comprehend why his partner’s needs should matter to him. If he is in love with a strong woman who can stand up for herself, he can learn the hard way ‘no means no.’ A partner who can hold her own will command his respect; the danger is he will take advantage of someone with weak self esteem and poor boundaries. He does not mean harm and does not even recognize he is taking advantage; like a child, he simply takes what he can get until he reaches a limit he can’t go past.
The Aries man is a natural leader, so if he does want kids, he takes great pride in being “head of the household.” There’s a tinge of chest-beating chauvinism to this, a sense that you could be cast into the roles of traditional, Leave It To Beaver-era husband and wife. Of course, you’ll never sleep in separate twin beds like the Cleavers. Mostly it will all be for show, another part of the peacock you’ll have to deal with. Even if you don’t have kids, there will always be a very important third “member” of your household: his penis, that is. The Aries man is incredibly proud and fascinated of everything his can do. And you’d better be, too. There’s usually plenty to appreciate there, anyhow. It will be obvious when you meet him that he knows that.
You’ll never meet a shy Aries, and though subtlety is not one of their strongest personality traits, they’ll keep you laughing and will always dazzle you with their dynamic energy, creativity, and wild moves on the dance floor. Aries men are mischievous but not devious, sometimes foolhardy but never fools, egotistic but not selfish, seriously sexy, and extremely fun to be around.
The danger for an Aries in a relationship is being too controlling and confrontational. They need to consciously curb their desire to battle and win. More specifically, they need to learn how to lose when fighting someone they love. It may sound like a quote from Sun Tzu, but in love they need to learn the art of ‘winning by appearing to lose’.
Aries is a sign which sometimes gets bad press in this area. Being bold and spontaneous does have it’s disadvantages here. If they decide to cheat, then they typically can do so easier than most other signs. With that said, they are no more likely to want to cheat than any other sign. Whether they love their partner or not is the key factor. If they do, they are totally loyal. If they don’t.. then all bets are off.
Aries wants a playmate more than a soulmate; someone who can meet and match his energy and enthusiasm, and who won’t hesitate to yell at him to stop when he gets carried away. Excitement is one of his mainstays in life. If an Aries commits to marriage, it will take something drastic to make him stray. His Libra Earth opposite sign makes sure of that! However, he is self-centred and if he feels his needs are not being met (particularly sexual needs), he may see nothing wrong with moving on.
Risk-takers and gamblers extraordinaire, and often profligate spenders, Aries men can make others quite nervous with their devil-may-care attitude when it comes to managing money and issues of financial security. But luck is often on their side, usually helping him come out on top of seemingly impossible situations. Saving funds is not a strong point here, and these guys tend to fall prey to get-rich-quick schemes all too often.
This is a question which is very hard to give a general answer on, as no two Aries men are totally identical. The key is understanding him and what he finds most attractive in a partner. Astrology can provide a wealth of information to enable this, however natal charts need to be prepared and studied to do so. Please see the article on seduction and astrology for more information on this.
With his date, time and location of birth these other factors can be calculated for a complete picture of his personality. To explore this further please see my article on astrology compatibility readings.
When the Aries man loves, he holds on tight. This can make him a tyrant who runs his home like a four-star general. He wants his kids to be successful and will hold them to high standards—though he spoils them ridiculously, too. This won’t always be an easy relationship. There could be episodes of screaming, tears, hurled objects and slammed doors with your warrior prince. He can take you to the edge of a mental breakdown. But as our Aries uncle Sami once said, “If you can’t fight with someone, you can’t love them.” For every shattered wine glass or hyperventilating meltdown, there will be passionate sex, unparalleled intimacy and devotion so powerful it takes your breath away. Together, you’ll write this unforgettable love story with blood, sweat and tears—every drop that’s in you.
This is a man who will appreciate sexy clothes and underwear, the bolder the better. If you’ve been looking for someone to model those impractical slinky outfits for, this is the guy! He enjoys being the pursuer, so once you’re looking suitably sexy for him, being demure, timid and shy will score major additional points.
Once he’s smitten, Aries focuses all his attention on the object of his desire. Cardinal fire is intense! Like a match igniting, his heart is instantly aflame, and he won’t be swayed. When an Aries becomes infatuated, it is only too obvious to his friends, for he single-mindedly speaks of little else. This might be a bit of a joke to those who know him well. When he encounters her, his behavior may be cartoonishly awkward, his feelings overly apparent. He can’t hide his heart; it hangs nakedly on his sleeve! Some women find this sort of attention unwelcome, but many are charmed by his directness, sincerity, and passion.
With impulsive and idealistic traits, Aries tend to dream big, which means that they can be enterprising entrepreneurs, but many of their endeavors may end up being a flash in the pan. Often pioneers in their field, these fellows are always engaged in an intense race to be number one – to get their invention patented, to get the scoop, or to make their brilliant business idea the first of its kind. There is a sense of urgency to everything these Rams do, and their success is always defined by their primacy. If they aren’t the first ones to reach the highest peak of the mountain, what’s the point?
Aries plays by his own rules. He doesn’t care how convention says he should behave, and that definitely includes his love life. He will direct his energies with full intensity toward whatever he is most interested in at the moment. What he wants, he pursues, but for all his ardor, he can give up and move on with surprising swiftness if he doesn’t get the response he wants within a certain span of time. Depending on what else is going on in his chart (Moon sign, ascendant sign, other planets, astrological spects, and houses), he may give up quickly or persevere for a while, but patience and persistence are not his strong points.
The Aries man is hot, hot, hot – physically and emotionally. Even when not conventionally handsome, these guys possess a kind of bravado and raw sexuality that oozes off of them, often making them infuriatingly attractive. There’s an innate confidence in the way they carry themselves – an energetic saunter, a wry grin, a double entendre that will make you want to stand closer to them in spite of yourself. Sex with an Aries man can be quite an athletic affair – lots of sweat pouring off slick flanks, acrobatic positions, and possibly a bit of consensual rough play.
Don’t be surprised, however, when their private persona reveals more vulnerability than you might have expected. Underneath that bombastic bravado, a childlike naiveté can cause them to end up with hurt feelings that are often masked by humor. It can be hard to keep up with their rapidfire wit, flair for grand gestures, and impressive libidos – so prepare to do a little stamina training in those areas if you have one of these fine fellows in your life!
As a dad, the Aries man is excellent at making little ones explode into fits of helpless giggling and happy to unleash his inner clown to delight children of all ages. This is the kind of father who may toss his babe high up in the air before catching them again, or toss them in the pool to teach them to swim – much to the chagrin of their possibly more safety-conscious and risk-averse co-parent.
If you want to be with Aries for the long haul, you’ll have to embrace his chosen lifestyle. Does that mean he wants everything on his terms? Well, everything that matters to him. We know tons of Aries men who are in long-term relationships, even married, but live in separate homes from their partners. Some even have open relationships, or some need that requires an “understanding” between you. One bi-curious Aries man agreed to marry his longtime girlfriend, but she had to allow him to have one “boys’ night” where he cuddled or made out with a man. How she put up with it, we don’t know—in this case, he threw a fit and threatened to walk unless he got his way. She decided to put up or shut up. If what’s good for the Aries goose ain’t good for the gander, he’d sooner fly away than change his migratory habits.
The Aries personality is one of extremes – there is no middle of the road here – so get ready to be equally as clear about what you want, and to be sure that you are speaking your own mind. The Aries man wants a powerful match that he can respect, and doesn’t have a lot of time for passivity, mixed messages, or doublespeak – but once he’s decided he wants you, he’ll put up with a lot if he thinks he can attain the prize.
They also have to make a conscious effort to look around to see other people’s feelings and desires, it doesn’t happen automatically for them. If you’re the sensitive type, then it’s fair to say you may get your feelings hurt occasionally, though it probably won’t be intentional.
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