Behind every Scorpio man’s relationship style is…his mom. He has a complicated, love/hate relationship with his mother that can border on Oedipal. Cutting the cord isn’t easy for him, and his resulting behavior pattern can be tricky to navigate. He fears that every woman wants to “engulf” him, yet he constantly creates situations where he needs to be mothered by his mate. You may have to endure a “come-here-now-go-away” drama until he realizes you’re not trying to control him. He’ll need to take baby steps to let you in.
Visiting the home of a Scorpio man might feel a bit like entering the Batcave – replete with a control center where he tinkers away at his computers, secret hidey-holes for all his favorite treasures, and a little lair where he sleeps (and does other things that involve a bed).
There will usually be a strong initial attraction between the Scorpio man and the Libra woman, but it might take some work for a serious relationship to grow. The Scales will feel much too confined by the possessive Scorpion, and he’ll have trouble understanding her light-hearted approach to love and romance.
As everything else that is black and white in his world, so is trust. He can either be unconditionally trusted and relied on, or entirely detached and painfully distant, making choices with no regard to anyone else’s feelings. He has the need to always speak his mind and in general, he will speak the truth. We might even say that his biggest joy lies in giving his observations of the hard truth that nobody wants to deal with. However, if he is angry enough, at his partner, his mother, or the entire world, he could be that quiet man that you can look at all day long, and still not recognize his intentions or his thoughts.
Once you’re in their space, with its deep, velvety sofas that seem to suck you in and hold you fast, you may feel like it’s hard to leave – like a soul trapped in the god of the underworld’s dark domain.
The loyalty, passion and sense of duty of the Cancer woman are bound to impress the Scorpio man. Both signs are romantic and emotional, so there will be no lack of passion. The Crab will feel safe and secure with her Scorpion, while he will feel completely adored and admired.
The Aquarius woman runs on intellect, while Scorpio runs on emotions. He’ll admire her intelligent conversation, but he’ll have trouble understanding her emotional detachment. The Water-bearer will feel trapped and smothered by the Scorpion’s jealousy and domineering nature. Of course, that doesn’t mean a love connection is impossible, just that it may take some work.
The Sagittarius woman is a free spirit who is seldom serious about anything, while Scorpio is the exact opposite. The Archer prefers to have casual friendships with a wide range of people, while the Scorpion prefers deep, meaningful relationships with a handful of people. Both will need to step outside of their comfort zones if they are to find common ground.
When it comes to parenting, a Scorpio man may not seem like a natural candidate for fatherhood, with his air of intensity and solitary ways. Scorpio men tend to project self-reliance and intrigue, leading you to believe that they don’t really need you – or anyone else for that matter – but lone wolves rarely survive for long. The Scorpio dad needs a pack to protect, connect to, and share with.
The Gemini woman will need to reign in her flirtatious and outgoing nature if she’s going to build a lasting relationship with suspicious Scorpio. The Twins are also flighty and capricious, which Scorpio may interpret as immature and superficial.
While the Scorpio man is secretive, he doesn’t like this trait in others. He’ll want to know everything about you and will not be satisfied until he discovers all your deepest, darkest secrets. In fact, the Scorpion has a burning desire for knowledge of any kind. This intelligent sign wants to learn all he can about the world, and especially about people. He closely examines potential friends and lovers before deciding whether or not they’re worth his time. If the Scorpion doesn’t genuinely respect someone, he will never allow the person into his “inner circle.”
Bonnie and Clyde. Sid and Nancy. Brangelina. The Scorpio man is looking for an iconic relationship, a hall of fame soulmate story—and he refuses to settle for less. He may give his body, even his name or DNA. But until he finds his mythic other half, the person who makes him look and feel like a god, he’ll never give his soul.
A perfect present for your Scorpio man is something that he has talked about a long time ago and then forgot. He loves to be reminded of things that awakened beautiful emotions inside him, and the best thing to choose is the one he chose himself. Since this sign exalts Uranus, he will be interested in technology and computers, but usually his focus is turned to the discovery of his own depth. You can’t miss with a proper psychology book or anything that will help him understand the flow of life. Choose something that can teach him about alchemy, alternative methods of healing or an honest way to understand God. That is a much better choice than that long wanted encyclopedia on World Wars.
The darker aspects of human sexuality and love often come to the forefront when dealing with a Scorpio man. He loves to delve into his partner’s innermost fears and secret desires, and to find the spaces within them where they are most vulnerable.
The traits of these extremely independent guys don’t make the best team players, so it may be ideal for them to work remotely or have a secluded office away from the hustle and bustle. Open office plans without even a cubicle for a semblance of privacy might raise their hackles constantly, and they may develop a reputation for being ornery, curt, or overly harsh.
To attract a Scorpio man, don’t dress too provocatively. Remember, he likes a sense of mystery so don’t reveal too much. Show him that you’re interested in a wide range of subjects and that you enjoy pondering the secrets of the universe. Once you’re in a relationship with a Scorpio man, try your best to keep him guessing and on his toes. He usually bores rather quickly, so hold his attention by gradually feeding him bits and pieces of information about yourself. Always be honest, however, and never lie to him about anything. Never give him any reason to doubt your fidelity. Even harmless flirting on your part can throw him into a temper tantrum. Once you’ve lost the trust and respect of a Scorpio man, you might never regain it.
When on a date, this man will care for his partner as if they were royalty. He wants to see a tender soul in his partner, someone who needs his protection and holds on to values and convictions without a doubt. He will borrow his sweater when it is chilly outside, but there is no guarantee he won’t take it back and become unpleasant as you say something that hurts him for unknown reasons. There is a great chance he won’t speak much, slow in his decisions, movements and change. He will take you to places that he finds romantic, and this could be anything from his basement or a dark hole of a club, to a vampire gathering in his front yard. Depending on his previous relationships, he can be quite open on the first date and show his true self immediately, or be hard to crack, always on the watch of getting hurt again.
Once you’re in, should you make it that far, you’ll feel like a goddess. The Scorpio man is a wholly different creature once he surrenders to trust. He lets you be totally sexually expressed while feeling fully respected. There’s no Madonna/whore conflict. The more you fly your freak flag, the more he pledges allegiance.
When it comes to his home and family, the Scorpio man demands creative control. Protective and possessive, he’ll set up a utopian family structure under his tight supervision, even home schooling his kids. He wants everything he does to be the “ultimate”—and molds his family according to his uncompromising vision. Scorpio rules the reproductive system, making him a natural father. He longs for a close-knit family filled with love and open communication, and he’ll do what it takes to get that.
Scorpio is the sign of death and rebirth, the mythic Phoenix rising from the ashes of destruction. You may have several breakups or relationship phases en route to fully committing. Though they will be harrowing for you, he considers these fiery emotional trials a purification ritual. In his mind, the more your relationship withstands turmoil, the more “real” your connection is. Hardcore? You bet.
Scorpio men are infamous for being reclusive geniuses, best when left to their own devices to intently focus on the work at hand. If you can trust their voracious intelligence and relentless work ethic, they will come through every time – but try not to micromanage or give them the idea that you don’t trust them because they can’t help but take that sort of thing so personally that it might completely disrupt the work environment.
This lair-like theme may extend to other rooms of his house, with heavy draperies over the windows and dark-painted walls. Natural light isn’t often super important for these nocturnal creatures who may be much more interested in showing you their night light that projects stars all over the ceiling, or screening movies with their own projector.
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