Aries can be jealous, and though he will try his best not to show it, he is not good at hiding his feelings. At root, he is terribly insecure and needs a lot of attention and positive reinforcement. Deeply competitive, he is an alpha male (or sometimes an alpha wannabe) who can’t stand the thought another man might get the love, sex, and attention that belongs to him. Yes, he is possessive, but he doesn’t want to be possessed himself. He has a double standard about a lot of things because his emotions are fixed on ‘me’. In order to grow, he will have to embrace his Libra Earth qualities, learning his partner’s needs matter as much as his own and that fairness and balance are important to his own long-term happiness.
The Aries male is practically an archetype of raw masculinity. Inherently dominant and a natural born leader, an Aries man thrives on challenge and confrontation. Both the fiery and cardinal forces that govern Aries make for a highly aggressive and even unbalanced individual. For this reason, Aries males are hard to tame and often suffer a lack of self-restraint.
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Ruled by the planet Mars, the Aries men move through the world on the their own terms and pace, and that is a major reason why some people find it too challenging to keep up with them. However, if you learn to accept their peculiarities, getting along with them will be a lot easier. Let’s go through some basic characteristics of the Aries men one by one.
Home is a place to crash, to change clothes, and maybe to roll in the hay – so don’t be surprised if your Aries paramour invites himself over to your place much more often. In fact, you may never see his space at all, unless you happen to share it with him. In which case, get ready to finish up the dishes he started to do before he got bored and moved on to something else, and make sure that wet laundry gets into the dryer before it starts to mildew. He’ll definitely begin a chore with great enthusiasm, but often get distracted by something new that absolutely needs doing before the first thing is ever completed.
Aries plays by his own rules. He doesn’t care how convention says he should behave, and that definitely includes his love life. He will direct his energies with full intensity toward whatever he is most interested in at the moment. What he wants, he pursues, but for all his ardor, he can give up and move on with surprising swiftness if he doesn’t get the response he wants within a certain span of time. Depending on what else is going on in his chart (Moon sign, ascendant sign, other planets, astrological spects, and houses), he may give up quickly or persevere for a while, but patience and persistence are not his strong points.
Your attraction to the Ram is understandable. He moves through the world on his own terms and makes commitments that are adhered to. His good looks are complemented with athleticism that makes him look physically fit even when he might have stayed away from the gym for quite some time.
This is a man who will appreciate sexy clothes and underwear, the bolder the better. If you’ve been looking for someone to model those impractical slinky outfits for, this is the guy! He enjoys being the pursuer, so once you’re looking suitably sexy for him, being demure, timid and shy will score major additional points.
Aries see themselves as leaders. While it’s true they are indeed leaders, they lead by action and not by planning or intellectual process. This can be good or bad depending on the situation. They are arguably the most spontaneous sign, and as such the most prone to regret things later.
The danger for an Aries in a relationship is being too controlling and confrontational. They need to consciously curb their desire to battle and win. More specifically, they need to learn how to lose when fighting someone they love. It may sound like a quote from Sun Tzu, but in love they need to learn the art of ‘winning by appearing to lose’.
Your Aries will have his own unique personality traits. This article talks about sun signs, however there are many other factors. For example his moon sign determines his emotional personality which affects whether he is sensitive, romantic, loyal etc.
This depends on far more than just your sun signs. The complete picture of your personality and his is determined by numerous planet placements at the time of birth. To fully understand someone or how compatible you are with them we need to calculate those other planet placements from their date of birth, and compare them to your own, and then interpret the results. This unlocks the real power of astrology, and gives much more useful and specific information – everything from how they view you and how to turn them on to the best way to avoid arguments.
If your sights are set on Aries, the last thing you want to do is chase him. Aries is all about the chase, but he prefers to be the hunter. He enjoys the art of pursuit, especially the first moves of flirting, and he’s very good at each stage of the chase. Enjoy the attention and don’t give in too soon or the excitement will be over once he catches up with you. The harder he must try to win your attention, the greater he’ll consider his win. After all, he’s number one and believes he deserves only the best.
The most likely romance between you will be work-related, Virgo woman. If you are put together to work on a specific project, your goal will be the glue that bonds you. Can you make a life of happiness your next big collaboration?
This is a question which is very hard to give a general answer on, as no two Aries men are totally identical. The key is understanding him and what he finds most attractive in a partner. Astrology can provide a wealth of information to enable this, however natal charts need to be prepared and studied to do so. Please see the article on seduction and astrology for more information on this.
His natural independence makes him a real “catch” as well, as it may appear that he prefers to wander instead of settling down. However, the sincerity and simplicity of the Ram cannot be overstated. You can guarantee you are getting exactly what is advertised. Check him out and you will discover that what you see is what you get.
Confrontational, short-tempered, egoistic and controlling, the Aries men rarely admit their shortcomings and are not so keen rectifying their mistakes. Besides, their demanding attitude creates pressure on their relationships, causing irreparable damage at times. The Aries men know how to play with words in order to get what they want. While it is a positive trait to some extent, it also makes them manipulative.
An adventurous and exciting lover, Aries men are never dull or boring. On the contrary the main risk is that a partner may not be able to keep up with them, or lack their resilience to bounce back from the many minor crisis and setbacks which being so impulsive and dynamic naturally creates. We have a separate article on Aries in love
The Aries personality is one of extremes – there is no middle of the road here – so get ready to be equally as clear about what you want, and to be sure that you are speaking your own mind. The Aries man wants a powerful match that he can respect, and doesn’t have a lot of time for passivity, mixed messages, or doublespeak – but once he’s decided he wants you, he’ll put up with a lot if he thinks he can attain the prize.
The endless conversation and social entanglements will bind you two. He may not see the Gemini woman’s dual nature as quite honest, and you will have to avoid mistaking his concrete reality as a lack of intellect.
The Aries man is great at either having lots of sex with lots of different people, or being completed devoted to one woman. Nothing in between. He’s too impatient to master the finer points of courtship. It doesn’t even occur to him. The Aries man is endearingly authentic to a fault. Even if he’s dating multiple women when you meet, he’ll just tell you outright. Although it may seem crude, his open-book policy can actually create a space of greater trust.
Going the extra mile will make him feel special – he wants to feel like he matters, so show him that he does by giving him gifts that are meant for him and him alone. Your Aries man is an original – there’s no one else quite like him, so don’t think for an instant that a Hallmark card or something you picked up at the mall is going to cut it. If anyone else has it, he probably doesn’t want it.
Everything sharp, red colored and hot will be a good fit. If he doesn’t already have a collection, you can always buy him a Swiss knife, a set of tools, a hunter’s hat, a flame thrower or a pair of sexy boxers. He will be happy if you show how masculine and strong he is, and give him something practical to use. Don’t obsess about his presents if you will have any resulting expectations – he will never obsess about yours.
Conquests can turn into a matter of pride or a competition, but Aries men can be easily bored and require constant stimulation. The best way to turn on an Aries is to just completely ignore them – but beware! That kind of rebuff won’t often get you a second chance. These partners may truly be suited better to polyamory, so keep that in mind if you’re wanting to settle down and get cozy for the long haul.
When the Aries man loves, he holds on tight. This can make him a tyrant who runs his home like a four-star general. He wants his kids to be successful and will hold them to high standards—though he spoils them ridiculously, too. This won’t always be an easy relationship. There could be episodes of screaming, tears, hurled objects and slammed doors with your warrior prince. He can take you to the edge of a mental breakdown. But as our Aries uncle Sami once said, “If you can’t fight with someone, you can’t love them.” For every shattered wine glass or hyperventilating meltdown, there will be passionate sex, unparalleled intimacy and devotion so powerful it takes your breath away. Together, you’ll write this unforgettable love story with blood, sweat and tears—every drop that’s in you.
He may seem like a brute, following his instincts and rarely using his brain, however smart he might be. Still, there is a soft side to him. If his loved one is in need of his help and support, he will show exactly how much he cares. When he feels respected and loved, he will let his guard down and seem like a cuddly bear at times. Aries might be ashamed to be soft, but when he feels trust, he can’t help it. There is a warm, behind the act, nature to this man, something that needs to be discovered in time and is reachable by approaching him with a lot of tenderness, however he might act.
Capricorn woman, it is much more likely that an Aries man will be your rival for a position at work than it is for you falling in love. But this natural tension does produce an intense and physically exhilarating passion.
What he needs is sort of contradictory: a relationship that gives him ultimate security and full freedom to roam. The Aries man is deeply driven by a fear of abandonment, so that should never be an issue between you. Once that’s secured, he feels safe to spread his arms wide and pull life to him. He wants to live life like it’s a huge playground—more like a carnival fairground—where he can wander, explore, win you stuffed animals, and enjoy a freak show or two. On Coney Island, reality is suspended. There’s a different set of rules, or perhaps none at all, which is perfect because that means he gets to make them. We can’t help but mention Aries Hugh Hefner again, who lives at the Playboy Mansion surrounded by half-naked centerfold models all day. Who cares if nobody else lives that way? That only makes it more appealing for Aries.
In your care and treatment of this special man, you need to be sure to pepper your physical demonstrations with a lot of sincere words. Everyone needs to hear those loving words, but Aries has a deeper need than other signs. Don’t be stingy with the praise. Just make sure you’re sincere because Aries has a built-in radar for insincerity. If he suspects you’re playing him, all you’ll see is the dust as he takes off on his motorcycle or in his sports car.
Aries wants a playmate more than a soulmate; someone who can meet and match his energy and enthusiasm, and who won’t hesitate to yell at him to stop when he gets carried away. Excitement is one of his mainstays in life. If an Aries commits to marriage, it will take something drastic to make him stray. His Libra Earth opposite sign makes sure of that! However, he is self-centred and if he feels his needs are not being met (particularly sexual needs), he may see nothing wrong with moving on.
This kind of self-absorption isn’t coming from a truly narcissistic place, but from an honest self-assurance of his own capability and all-around awesomeness. It’s true that Mars-ruled Aries men are good at what they do, and they’re not shy about standing in the spotlight.
Besides, it’s not like Aries thinks relationships are the be-all end-all of life. He gets restless, itchy for the next adventure. His eyes rove, his imagination wanders. Isn’t there another damsel to save somewhere? Another sexual position he hasn’t tried? He knows his desires may be more than one woman can supply—and he’s not above shopping at a few different stores to complete his sexual grocery list. To this independent sign, bachelorhood is a cherished prize. It’s his ticket to freedom, adventure, unlimited expression—his access to feeling truly alive. He’ll never trade it in unless he truly believes a relationship will provide all those treasures and more.
If you want to be with Aries for the long haul, you’ll have to embrace his chosen lifestyle. Does that mean he wants everything on his terms? Well, everything that matters to him. We know tons of Aries men who are in long-term relationships, even married, but live in separate homes from their partners. Some even have open relationships, or some need that requires an “understanding” between you. One bi-curious Aries man agreed to marry his longtime girlfriend, but she had to allow him to have one “boys’ night” where he cuddled or made out with a man. How she put up with it, we don’t know—in this case, he threw a fit and threatened to walk unless he got his way. She decided to put up or shut up. If what’s good for the Aries goose ain’t good for the gander, he’d sooner fly away than change his migratory habits.
Aries loves to flirt and enjoys every nuance of that first attraction. If a woman catches his interest, he will all but stand on his head to get her attention. Like a schoolboy, his approach can be annoying and even overwhelming. When he is rejected, as he often is (because his approach is not for everyone), he bounces back and is happy to keep trying. His heart is easily (if temporarily) broken, but nothing can keep this man down.
With his date, time and location of birth these other factors can be calculated for a complete picture of his personality. To explore this further please see my article on astrology compatibility readings.
Holding on to his affections might seem impossible at first. If you can adjust your expectations, you will realize that he is already meeting most of what you want in a partner. Aries men are turned off by clingy women, needy partners, and a lingering invasion of their private spaces and time.
This is always a hard question to answer, as one person’s idea of kinky can be very different to someone else’s. Individuals also vary a lot, so this is a bad area to generalize in. All things being equal though, Aries men are amongst the more kinky, yes.
This man is particularly masculine and virile (yes okay, macho and horny!) and is in touch with his inner child. The later manifests in both good and bad ways; on the plus side he tends to be very fun loving and adventurous, and on the negative he can be very sulky if he doesn’t get his own way, or is ignored.
Once the thrill of the chase is over, Aries is tempted to stray unless his mate rekindles his imagination. Aries wants true love, but he’s also a romantic who enjoys wining and dining his lover. He seeks a romantic partner who can be a pal when he wants to go whitewater rafting or exploring a new hiking trail. A partner who can shift in and out of the role of lover and friend will surely capture his heart forever.
They also have to make a conscious effort to look around to see other people’s feelings and desires, it doesn’t happen automatically for them. If you’re the sensitive type, then it’s fair to say you may get your feelings hurt occasionally, though it probably won’t be intentional.
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