Every Ram needs a little area in the universe to call his own. If you can leave him alone when the need for his brooding arises, you will have his heart. He seeks the reassuring tranquility of partnership, yet needs a respite to be one with the universe.
Generally they don’t. But, this is the type of generic question that often gets asked or answered whenever astrology is discussed. Individual experiences are then quoted back and forth as proof that Aries men do or don’t. Individuals get offended by general statements that don’t apply to them, and everything goes downhill fast. The diagram below shows the problem here:
This is a question which is very hard to give a general answer on, as no two Aries men are totally identical. The key is understanding him and what he finds most attractive in a partner. Astrology can provide a wealth of information to enable this, however natal charts need to be prepared and studied to do so. Please see the article on seduction and astrology for more information on this.
When he’s in love, the Aries man becomes single-minded when struck by Cupid’s arrow! This cardinal fire sign does not hesitate to make the first move, and he’s not afraid to take risks or to appear foolish. Headstrong and impetuous, he learns the hard way, by making mistakes, a lot of them.
Relationships are not easy to Aries in general, but Aries men have special trouble when needed to connect to their partner, feel compassion and think for two. He finds it much easier to do everything alone and finds it rare in a partner to have enough energy to follow his lead. Aries man is prone to chauvinism more than any other sign in the zodiac. It is imperative for his partner to stay independent, financially and socially, if a relationship with this man is to succeed.
The level of Aries’ impulsiveness is determined by how mature he is and the kind of self-exploration he’s done. An immature Aries can be head over heels in love every other day with someone new. If he’s learned how to develop relationships and understands the rewards of nurturing a serious love relationship, his impulsive nature manifests as spontaneity and openness to new experience.
Ruled by the planet Mars, the Aries men move through the world on the their own terms and pace, and that is a major reason why some people find it too challenging to keep up with them. However, if you learn to accept their peculiarities, getting along with them will be a lot easier. Let’s go through some basic characteristics of the Aries men one by one.
If your sights are set on Aries, the last thing you want to do is chase him. Aries is all about the chase, but he prefers to be the hunter. He enjoys the art of pursuit, especially the first moves of flirting, and he’s very good at each stage of the chase. Enjoy the attention and don’t give in too soon or the excitement will be over once he catches up with you. The harder he must try to win your attention, the greater he’ll consider his win. After all, he’s number one and believes he deserves only the best.
A quiet night at home is not the ideal way to woo your Aries man. Instead, take him out to a loud, raucous concert and be willing to join him on the dance floor or in the mosh pit – or ringside at a Mexican wrestling match or a bullfight.
Aries loves to flirt and enjoys every nuance of that first attraction. If a woman catches his interest, he will all but stand on his head to get her attention. Like a schoolboy, his approach can be annoying and even overwhelming. When he is rejected, as he often is (because his approach is not for everyone), he bounces back and is happy to keep trying. His heart is easily (if temporarily) broken, but nothing can keep this man down.
However, he doesn’t have much sense for anyone but himself. He can be rough, selfish and impulsive, while approaching every relationship he has as a fighting arena, where he needs to show his supremacy.
This is a man who will appreciate sexy clothes and underwear, the bolder the better. If you’ve been looking for someone to model those impractical slinky outfits for, this is the guy! He enjoys being the pursuer, so once you’re looking suitably sexy for him, being demure, timid and shy will score major additional points.
Aries is a fire sign, and this man has enough passion for several men. This can be a problem for the less mature Aries, who has not learned about boundaries and may not be willing to hear a ‘no’. An immature Aries can be infantile about sexuality; he wants what he wants now and can’t comprehend why his partner’s needs should matter to him. If he is in love with a strong woman who can stand up for herself, he can learn the hard way ‘no means no.’ A partner who can hold her own will command his respect; the danger is he will take advantage of someone with weak self esteem and poor boundaries. He does not mean harm and does not even recognize he is taking advantage; like a child, he simply takes what he can get until he reaches a limit he can’t go past.
His natural independence makes him a real “catch” as well, as it may appear that he prefers to wander instead of settling down. However, the sincerity and simplicity of the Ram cannot be overstated. You can guarantee you are getting exactly what is advertised. Check him out and you will discover that what you see is what you get.
The tension you feel around the Ram is the scent of something taboo. Look deeper, Libra woman, and you will see that all of the traits you share have a taint of the forbidden about them, hence the magnetic attraction between you two despite all warnings.
Most relationships are lots of talk and not enough action. The Scorpio woman’s affair with a Ram will be exactly the opposite: All action and little conversation. Get to know each other before it gets too deep.
This kind of self-absorption isn’t coming from a truly narcissistic place, but from an honest self-assurance of his own capability and all-around awesomeness. It’s true that Mars-ruled Aries men are good at what they do, and they’re not shy about standing in the spotlight.
The Aries man is a natural leader, so if he does want kids, he takes great pride in being “head of the household.” There’s a tinge of chest-beating chauvinism to this, a sense that you could be cast into the roles of traditional, Leave It To Beaver-era husband and wife. Of course, you’ll never sleep in separate twin beds like the Cleavers. Mostly it will all be for show, another part of the peacock you’ll have to deal with. Even if you don’t have kids, there will always be a very important third “member” of your household: his penis, that is. The Aries man is incredibly proud and fascinated of everything his can do. And you’d better be, too. There’s usually plenty to appreciate there, anyhow. It will be obvious when you meet him that he knows that.
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The Aries man is great at either having lots of sex with lots of different people, or being completed devoted to one woman. Nothing in between. He’s too impatient to master the finer points of courtship. It doesn’t even occur to him. The Aries man is endearingly authentic to a fault. Even if he’s dating multiple women when you meet, he’ll just tell you outright. Although it may seem crude, his open-book policy can actually create a space of greater trust.
Aries can be jealous, and though he will try his best not to show it, he is not good at hiding his feelings. At root, he is terribly insecure and needs a lot of attention and positive reinforcement. Deeply competitive, he is an alpha male (or sometimes an alpha wannabe) who can’t stand the thought another man might get the love, sex, and attention that belongs to him. Yes, he is possessive, but he doesn’t want to be possessed himself. He has a double standard about a lot of things because his emotions are fixed on ‘me’. In order to grow, he will have to embrace his Libra Earth qualities, learning his partner’s needs matter as much as his own and that fairness and balance are important to his own long-term happiness.
Once he’s smitten, Aries focuses all his attention on the object of his desire. Cardinal fire is intense! Like a match igniting, his heart is instantly aflame, and he won’t be swayed. When an Aries becomes infatuated, it is only too obvious to his friends, for he single-mindedly speaks of little else. This might be a bit of a joke to those who know him well. When he encounters her, his behavior may be cartoonishly awkward, his feelings overly apparent. He can’t hide his heart; it hangs nakedly on his sleeve! Some women find this sort of attention unwelcome, but many are charmed by his directness, sincerity, and passion.
Relationships are complex things, comprising hundreds of individual elements. Sun signs are one of these, however a detailed analysis of everything is required to find all the strong and weak areas. Please see the article on astrology and soulmates for more information on how astrology can be used to determine if someone is your soulmate.
The Ram will fixate on some point about the Sagittarius woman, which could be something you love about yourself, or not. If you can satisfy his fixation, though, you will be absolutely worshipped by him.
Home is a place to crash, to change clothes, and maybe to roll in the hay – so don’t be surprised if your Aries paramour invites himself over to your place much more often. In fact, you may never see his space at all, unless you happen to share it with him. In which case, get ready to finish up the dishes he started to do before he got bored and moved on to something else, and make sure that wet laundry gets into the dryer before it starts to mildew. He’ll definitely begin a chore with great enthusiasm, but often get distracted by something new that absolutely needs doing before the first thing is ever completed.
Ironically, one of the most common complaints about them is that they can be too direct and honest about such things. This isn’t a man who sits around planning or leaving subtle clues! If you have to ask with an Aries then… probably he doesn’t (or doesn’t yet!) For a full description of how an Aries man acts when in love please see our article on Aries in love
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