When the Aries man loves, he holds on tight. This can make him a tyrant who runs his home like a four-star general. He wants his kids to be successful and will hold them to high standards—though he spoils them ridiculously, too. This won’t always be an easy relationship. There could be episodes of screaming, tears, hurled objects and slammed doors with your warrior prince. He can take you to the edge of a mental breakdown. But as our Aries uncle Sami once said, “If you can’t fight with someone, you can’t love them.” For every shattered wine glass or hyperventilating meltdown, there will be passionate sex, unparalleled intimacy and devotion so powerful it takes your breath away. Together, you’ll write this unforgettable love story with blood, sweat and tears—every drop that’s in you.
This is always a hard question to answer, as one person’s idea of kinky can be very different to someone else’s. Individuals also vary a lot, so this is a bad area to generalize in. All things being equal though, Aries men are amongst the more kinky, yes.
Confrontational, short-tempered, egoistic and controlling, the Aries men rarely admit their shortcomings and are not so keen rectifying their mistakes. Besides, their demanding attitude creates pressure on their relationships, causing irreparable damage at times. The Aries men know how to play with words in order to get what they want. While it is a positive trait to some extent, it also makes them manipulative.
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An Aries man inherits the god of war’s ability to quickly strategize and form a plan of attack. Whether it’s in business, war or love, Aries is always up to the challenge. He is highly competitive in every area of his life. He enjoys competing against himself as much as he does with others. His career is a benchmark of accomplishments, especially those he garners for being the first in his company or industry to achieve certain successes and milestones. When it comes to his love interest, Aries is drawn to the most desirable partner. He enjoys the competition to win the object of his desire, since he’s certain he’ll be the victor.
The Aries man is a mixture of fearless warrior and undisciplined child. Aries is one of the easiest signs to understand, these are action people, extroverted and assertive. They want to be in charge, the boss, the hunter, the instigator. They are typically confident, fiery, bold, spontaneous and independent.
Though an Aries male can sometimes make for a complicated relationship, this zodiac sign isn’t actually complicated on a personal level. Aries’ cardinal triplicity and fire element are in perfect harmony; both are forward and direct energies. Aries is a soldier and a leader and his relationships will be only become complicated when challenged by individuals of a contradictory nature. Do not try and restrain him, but instead allow him to thrive in his element and all will be well. The world has developed through centuries of political and technological progress, often fueled by the drive of Aries individuals. This energy and archetype is vital and should only be suppressed when Aries’ truly worst points rear themselves.
What he needs is sort of contradictory: a relationship that gives him ultimate security and full freedom to roam. The Aries man is deeply driven by a fear of abandonment, so that should never be an issue between you. Once that’s secured, he feels safe to spread his arms wide and pull life to him. He wants to live life like it’s a huge playground—more like a carnival fairground—where he can wander, explore, win you stuffed animals, and enjoy a freak show or two. On Coney Island, reality is suspended. There’s a different set of rules, or perhaps none at all, which is perfect because that means he gets to make them. We can’t help but mention Aries Hugh Hefner again, who lives at the Playboy Mansion surrounded by half-naked centerfold models all day. Who cares if nobody else lives that way? That only makes it more appealing for Aries.
Once he’s smitten, Aries focuses all his attention on the object of his desire. Cardinal fire is intense! Like a match igniting, his heart is instantly aflame, and he won’t be swayed. When an Aries becomes infatuated, it is only too obvious to his friends, for he single-mindedly speaks of little else. This might be a bit of a joke to those who know him well. When he encounters her, his behavior may be cartoonishly awkward, his feelings overly apparent. He can’t hide his heart; it hangs nakedly on his sleeve! Some women find this sort of attention unwelcome, but many are charmed by his directness, sincerity, and passion.
An Aries man knows what he wants immediately, and goes after it with zero hesitation. This kind of man is often a leaper off of high cliffs, and not always a looker to see what lies down below. There’s a “me first!” mentality that can result in a sense of urgency in regards to ambition and initiative. This can make them natural leaders, ready to head up the vanguard.
An adventurous and exciting lover, Aries men are never dull or boring. On the contrary the main risk is that a partner may not be able to keep up with them, or lack their resilience to bounce back from the many minor crisis and setbacks which being so impulsive and dynamic naturally creates. We have a separate article on Aries in love
Once the thrill of the chase is over, Aries is tempted to stray unless his mate rekindles his imagination. Aries wants true love, but he’s also a romantic who enjoys wining and dining his lover. He seeks a romantic partner who can be a pal when he wants to go whitewater rafting or exploring a new hiking trail. A partner who can shift in and out of the role of lover and friend will surely capture his heart forever.
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Conquests can turn into a matter of pride or a competition, but Aries men can be easily bored and require constant stimulation. The best way to turn on an Aries is to just completely ignore them – but beware! That kind of rebuff won’t often get you a second chance. These partners may truly be suited better to polyamory, so keep that in mind if you’re wanting to settle down and get cozy for the long haul.
Aries can be jealous, and though he will try his best not to show it, he is not good at hiding his feelings. At root, he is terribly insecure and needs a lot of attention and positive reinforcement. Deeply competitive, he is an alpha male (or sometimes an alpha wannabe) who can’t stand the thought another man might get the love, sex, and attention that belongs to him. Yes, he is possessive, but he doesn’t want to be possessed himself. He has a double standard about a lot of things because his emotions are fixed on ‘me’. In order to grow, he will have to embrace his Libra Earth qualities, learning his partner’s needs matter as much as his own and that fairness and balance are important to his own long-term happiness.
In your care and treatment of this special man, you need to be sure to pepper your physical demonstrations with a lot of sincere words. Everyone needs to hear those loving words, but Aries has a deeper need than other signs. Don’t be stingy with the praise. Just make sure you’re sincere because Aries has a built-in radar for insincerity. If he suspects you’re playing him, all you’ll see is the dust as he takes off on his motorcycle or in his sports car.
When in love, these men can be possessed by a fleeting temper that can flare up unexpectedly. But they don’t tend to stay mad for long – unless you really cross them, in which case, you’re pretty much dead to them. That combustibility can implode a romance and create a tendency to burn bridges. Are you compatible with your Aries man? Find out here.
Home is a place to crash, to change clothes, and maybe to roll in the hay – so don’t be surprised if your Aries paramour invites himself over to your place much more often. In fact, you may never see his space at all, unless you happen to share it with him. In which case, get ready to finish up the dishes he started to do before he got bored and moved on to something else, and make sure that wet laundry gets into the dryer before it starts to mildew. He’ll definitely begin a chore with great enthusiasm, but often get distracted by something new that absolutely needs doing before the first thing is ever completed.
Generally they don’t. But, this is the type of generic question that often gets asked or answered whenever astrology is discussed. Individual experiences are then quoted back and forth as proof that Aries men do or don’t. Individuals get offended by general statements that don’t apply to them, and everything goes downhill fast. The diagram below shows the problem here:
Aries loves to flirt and enjoys every nuance of that first attraction. If a woman catches his interest, he will all but stand on his head to get her attention. Like a schoolboy, his approach can be annoying and even overwhelming. When he is rejected, as he often is (because his approach is not for everyone), he bounces back and is happy to keep trying. His heart is easily (if temporarily) broken, but nothing can keep this man down.
The Aries man is a natural leader, so if he does want kids, he takes great pride in being “head of the household.” There’s a tinge of chest-beating chauvinism to this, a sense that you could be cast into the roles of traditional, Leave It To Beaver-era husband and wife. Of course, you’ll never sleep in separate twin beds like the Cleavers. Mostly it will all be for show, another part of the peacock you’ll have to deal with. Even if you don’t have kids, there will always be a very important third “member” of your household: his penis, that is. The Aries man is incredibly proud and fascinated of everything his can do. And you’d better be, too. There’s usually plenty to appreciate there, anyhow. It will be obvious when you meet him that he knows that.
Every Ram needs a little area in the universe to call his own. If you can leave him alone when the need for his brooding arises, you will have his heart. He seeks the reassuring tranquility of partnership, yet needs a respite to be one with the universe.
No advice will ever apply to every Aries man as they are all unique in various ways. I specialize in offering tailored advice based on your unique personality and his together, as one without the other isn’t nearly as useful. My astrology readings solve real relationship problems for real people every day. For more information please see the article on relationship advice.
Let’s start with a disclaimer: you might not like what you hear. Or, you might just shout “finally!” The Aries man has a very specific, grand and demanding vision for his ultimate relationship. In life, he orders everything customized to his tastes, and those tastes are very particular. He may not subconsciously realize that human beings, imbued with things like personalities and free will, can’t conform to his fantasies on demand. He’d rather just find that “needle in the haystack” relationship, the impossible dream come true. When he finds that, he gives it every ounce of his being. He turns off the selfish switch and pours on the giving. So why would he do that for just anyone?
The Aries male is practically an archetype of raw masculinity. Inherently dominant and a natural born leader, an Aries man thrives on challenge and confrontation. Both the fiery and cardinal forces that govern Aries make for a highly aggressive and even unbalanced individual. For this reason, Aries males are hard to tame and often suffer a lack of self-restraint.
No, this article is based only on sun signs. Those are a convenient and fast way to generalize, but far from conclusive at this broad level. There are many other planet placements which all affect someone’s personality.
Your attraction to the Ram is understandable. He moves through the world on his own terms and makes commitments that are adhered to. His good looks are complemented with athleticism that makes him look physically fit even when he might have stayed away from the gym for quite some time.
He is not much of a romantic and will probably do things by the book. He will bring you red roses, take you to a fine restaurant and might put you in a limousine if he really wants to seduce you. When you go to the movies, he will buy tickets for the new action thriller, even though you would like to see a romantic comedy and order a huge meat stake in the restaurant, even if you are a vegetarian. He will expect to have sex on your first date and will go on expecting it every time you see each other. Your phone conversations will be short, messages rare, except if you create a hot line you would use for sexual interaction when you are not in a position to see each other.
Aries see themselves as leaders. While it’s true they are indeed leaders, they lead by action and not by planning or intellectual process. This can be good or bad depending on the situation. They are arguably the most spontaneous sign, and as such the most prone to regret things later.
Don’t be surprised, however, when their private persona reveals more vulnerability than you might have expected. Underneath that bombastic bravado, a childlike naiveté can cause them to end up with hurt feelings that are often masked by humor. It can be hard to keep up with their rapidfire wit, flair for grand gestures, and impressive libidos – so prepare to do a little stamina training in those areas if you have one of these fine fellows in your life!
This is not the sign of a homebody, so don’t expect the living space of the Aries man to be welcoming or comfortable. It works for them, and they have it all arranged the way they like it, but concessions might not be made for the desires of anyone else. There may just be one place setting or chair at the table, or one pillow on the bed. It’s not that they didn’t think of you, it’s just that they often don’t think of home as a place to share, or even really a place where they want to spend too much time – not with all the exciting things to do and see out in the world.
An Aries man lives for adrenaline, change, excitement, and novelty – so if you want to give him gifts, choose skydiving lessons, martial arts classes, or an exciting surprise vacation to somewhere he’s never been before. Surprises of all kinds are welcome here – the Ram is a sign who actually enjoys being caught a little off-guard, and will totally respect you for being able to pull off a surprise party without him finding out.
As a dad, the Aries man is excellent at making little ones explode into fits of helpless giggling and happy to unleash his inner clown to delight children of all ages. This is the kind of father who may toss his babe high up in the air before catching them again, or toss them in the pool to teach them to swim – much to the chagrin of their possibly more safety-conscious and risk-averse co-parent.
Aries has a difficult time finding an ideal mate. As a leader-driven archetype who thrives on challenging new projects, commitment is not in his nature. Individuals with a moon or Venus in Aries have a very hard time settling down, and it will take one remarkable woman to keep him homebound. What an Aries desires will often depend on where this sign manifests in his chart. However, for a chart-dominant Aries, an equally passionate mate who is direct yet mysterious may have a chance at catching his interest long term.
The Aries man is hot, hot, hot – physically and emotionally. Even when not conventionally handsome, these guys possess a kind of bravado and raw sexuality that oozes off of them, often making them infuriatingly attractive. There’s an innate confidence in the way they carry themselves – an energetic saunter, a wry grin, a double entendre that will make you want to stand closer to them in spite of yourself. Sex with an Aries man can be quite an athletic affair – lots of sweat pouring off slick flanks, acrobatic positions, and possibly a bit of consensual rough play.
The danger for an Aries in a relationship is being too controlling and confrontational. They need to consciously curb their desire to battle and win. More specifically, they need to learn how to lose when fighting someone they love. It may sound like a quote from Sun Tzu, but in love they need to learn the art of ‘winning by appearing to lose’.
The Aries man is great at either having lots of sex with lots of different people, or being completed devoted to one woman. Nothing in between. He’s too impatient to master the finer points of courtship. It doesn’t even occur to him. The Aries man is endearingly authentic to a fault. Even if he’s dating multiple women when you meet, he’ll just tell you outright. Although it may seem crude, his open-book policy can actually create a space of greater trust.
The Aries personality is one of extremes – there is no middle of the road here – so get ready to be equally as clear about what you want, and to be sure that you are speaking your own mind. The Aries man wants a powerful match that he can respect, and doesn’t have a lot of time for passivity, mixed messages, or doublespeak – but once he’s decided he wants you, he’ll put up with a lot if he thinks he can attain the prize.
A quiet night at home is not the ideal way to woo your Aries man. Instead, take him out to a loud, raucous concert and be willing to join him on the dance floor or in the mosh pit – or ringside at a Mexican wrestling match or a bullfight.
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