Aries has a difficult time finding an ideal mate. As a leader-driven archetype who thrives on challenging new projects, commitment is not in his nature. Individuals with a moon or Venus in Aries have a very hard time settling down, and it will take one remarkable woman to keep him homebound. What an Aries desires will often depend on where this sign manifests in his chart. However, for a chart-dominant Aries, an equally passionate mate who is direct yet mysterious may have a chance at catching his interest long term.
Though an Aries male can sometimes make for a complicated relationship, this zodiac sign isn’t actually complicated on a personal level. Aries’ cardinal triplicity and fire element are in perfect harmony; both are forward and direct energies. Aries is a soldier and a leader and his relationships will be only become complicated when challenged by individuals of a contradictory nature. Do not try and restrain him, but instead allow him to thrive in his element and all will be well. The world has developed through centuries of political and technological progress, often fueled by the drive of Aries individuals. This energy and archetype is vital and should only be suppressed when Aries’ truly worst points rear themselves.
An Aries man lives for adrenaline, change, excitement, and novelty – so if you want to give him gifts, choose skydiving lessons, martial arts classes, or an exciting surprise vacation to somewhere he’s never been before. Surprises of all kinds are welcome here – the Ram is a sign who actually enjoys being caught a little off-guard, and will totally respect you for being able to pull off a surprise party without him finding out.
No, this article is based only on sun signs. Those are a convenient and fast way to generalize, but far from conclusive at this broad level. There are many other planet placements which all affect someone’s personality.
Your Aries will have his own unique personality traits. This article talks about sun signs, however there are many other factors. For example his moon sign determines his emotional personality which affects whether he is sensitive, romantic, loyal etc.
What he needs is sort of contradictory: a relationship that gives him ultimate security and full freedom to roam. The Aries man is deeply driven by a fear of abandonment, so that should never be an issue between you. Once that’s secured, he feels safe to spread his arms wide and pull life to him. He wants to live life like it’s a huge playground—more like a carnival fairground—where he can wander, explore, win you stuffed animals, and enjoy a freak show or two. On Coney Island, reality is suspended. There’s a different set of rules, or perhaps none at all, which is perfect because that means he gets to make them. We can’t help but mention Aries Hugh Hefner again, who lives at the Playboy Mansion surrounded by half-naked centerfold models all day. Who cares if nobody else lives that way? That only makes it more appealing for Aries.
When you want a jolt of non-stop energy and a curious mind that never stops, you are looking for an Aries. When you are interested in someone who will respect your space and your individuality, an Aries man is hard to surpass. If it is acceptance that you crave, along with some distance to balance the intimacy between you two, an Aries man is quite suited for your needs.
Ruled by the planet Mars, the Aries men move through the world on the their own terms and pace, and that is a major reason why some people find it too challenging to keep up with them. However, if you learn to accept their peculiarities, getting along with them will be a lot easier. Let’s go through some basic characteristics of the Aries men one by one.
An adventurous and exciting lover, Aries men are never dull or boring. On the contrary the main risk is that a partner may not be able to keep up with them, or lack their resilience to bounce back from the many minor crisis and setbacks which being so impulsive and dynamic naturally creates. We have a separate article on Aries in love
Home is a place to crash, to change clothes, and maybe to roll in the hay – so don’t be surprised if your Aries paramour invites himself over to your place much more often. In fact, you may never see his space at all, unless you happen to share it with him. In which case, get ready to finish up the dishes he started to do before he got bored and moved on to something else, and make sure that wet laundry gets into the dryer before it starts to mildew. He’ll definitely begin a chore with great enthusiasm, but often get distracted by something new that absolutely needs doing before the first thing is ever completed.
The Aries male is practically an archetype of raw masculinity. Inherently dominant and a natural born leader, an Aries man thrives on challenge and confrontation. Both the fiery and cardinal forces that govern Aries make for a highly aggressive and even unbalanced individual. For this reason, Aries males are hard to tame and often suffer a lack of self-restraint.
Relationships are not easy to Aries in general, but Aries men have special trouble when needed to connect to their partner, feel compassion and think for two. He finds it much easier to do everything alone and finds it rare in a partner to have enough energy to follow his lead. Aries man is prone to chauvinism more than any other sign in the zodiac. It is imperative for his partner to stay independent, financially and socially, if a relationship with this man is to succeed.
Generally they don’t. But, this is the type of generic question that often gets asked or answered whenever astrology is discussed. Individual experiences are then quoted back and forth as proof that Aries men do or don’t. Individuals get offended by general statements that don’t apply to them, and everything goes downhill fast. The diagram below shows the problem here:
Aries is the sign of the fiery, rebellious personality, so be prepared to expect the unexpected with them – in their interests, personal perspectives, and even in their occasionally flamboyant dress sense. They don’t want to be part of the conformist herd and will find a way to set themselves apart and stand out from the crowd.
Uncomplicated, bold, aggressive and impulsive, Aries can sometimes be seen as selfish, insensitive, domineering, blunt, outspoken and impatient. They’re never afraid of taking a risk. Lacking in self control they more than compensate in resilience – this is one tough cookie, who will live life to the fullest.
Aries lives up to his birthright of being the first born of the zodiac. This comes through in his need to always be number one in your life. If he ever feels as though he isn’t your number one, he’ll be compelled to find someone else to give him that first place status. What you may view as needing to have his ego petted is simply his need for validation. It’s tough being the first sign of the zodiac, so cut him some slack whenever you feel he’s being a bit too demanding of your time. Pause long enough to give him the loving kiss or reassuring hug. That’s really all he needs, but he does need them more often than other sun signs.
The Aries man is a mixture of fearless warrior and undisciplined child. Aries is one of the easiest signs to understand, these are action people, extroverted and assertive. They want to be in charge, the boss, the hunter, the instigator. They are typically confident, fiery, bold, spontaneous and independent.
The Aries man is great at either having lots of sex with lots of different people, or being completed devoted to one woman. Nothing in between. He’s too impatient to master the finer points of courtship. It doesn’t even occur to him. The Aries man is endearingly authentic to a fault. Even if he’s dating multiple women when you meet, he’ll just tell you outright. Although it may seem crude, his open-book policy can actually create a space of greater trust.
This is a man who will appreciate sexy clothes and underwear, the bolder the better. If you’ve been looking for someone to model those impractical slinky outfits for, this is the guy! He enjoys being the pursuer, so once you’re looking suitably sexy for him, being demure, timid and shy will score major additional points.
When he’s in love, the Aries man becomes single-minded when struck by Cupid’s arrow! This cardinal fire sign does not hesitate to make the first move, and he’s not afraid to take risks or to appear foolish. Headstrong and impetuous, he learns the hard way, by making mistakes, a lot of them.
Aries is a fire sign, and this man has enough passion for several men. This can be a problem for the less mature Aries, who has not learned about boundaries and may not be willing to hear a ‘no’. An immature Aries can be infantile about sexuality; he wants what he wants now and can’t comprehend why his partner’s needs should matter to him. If he is in love with a strong woman who can stand up for herself, he can learn the hard way ‘no means no.’ A partner who can hold her own will command his respect; the danger is he will take advantage of someone with weak self esteem and poor boundaries. He does not mean harm and does not even recognize he is taking advantage; like a child, he simply takes what he can get until he reaches a limit he can’t go past.
Aries see themselves as leaders. While it’s true they are indeed leaders, they lead by action and not by planning or intellectual process. This can be good or bad depending on the situation. They are arguably the most spontaneous sign, and as such the most prone to regret things later.
His natural independence makes him a real “catch” as well, as it may appear that he prefers to wander instead of settling down. However, the sincerity and simplicity of the Ram cannot be overstated. You can guarantee you are getting exactly what is advertised. Check him out and you will discover that what you see is what you get.
An Aries man knows what he wants immediately, and goes after it with zero hesitation. This kind of man is often a leaper off of high cliffs, and not always a looker to see what lies down below. There’s a “me first!” mentality that can result in a sense of urgency in regards to ambition and initiative. This can make them natural leaders, ready to head up the vanguard.
Conquests can turn into a matter of pride or a competition, but Aries men can be easily bored and require constant stimulation. The best way to turn on an Aries is to just completely ignore them – but beware! That kind of rebuff won’t often get you a second chance. These partners may truly be suited better to polyamory, so keep that in mind if you’re wanting to settle down and get cozy for the long haul.
Aries is a sign which sometimes gets bad press in this area. Being bold and spontaneous does have it’s disadvantages here. If they decide to cheat, then they typically can do so easier than most other signs. With that said, they are no more likely to want to cheat than any other sign. Whether they love their partner or not is the key factor. If they do, they are totally loyal. If they don’t.. then all bets are off.
Confrontational, short-tempered, egoistic and controlling, the Aries men rarely admit their shortcomings and are not so keen rectifying their mistakes. Besides, their demanding attitude creates pressure on their relationships, causing irreparable damage at times. The Aries men know how to play with words in order to get what they want. While it is a positive trait to some extent, it also makes them manipulative.
Although often the ones to start off projects enthusiastically and with passion, the Aries are not great finishers. Once the initial excitement dies down, they lose interest to continue, and in all likelihood, they will shift focus to other goals or adventurous, including romantic interests. Maintaining their enthusiasm levels is a challenge for them.
Aries can be jealous, and though he will try his best not to show it, he is not good at hiding his feelings. At root, he is terribly insecure and needs a lot of attention and positive reinforcement. Deeply competitive, he is an alpha male (or sometimes an alpha wannabe) who can’t stand the thought another man might get the love, sex, and attention that belongs to him. Yes, he is possessive, but he doesn’t want to be possessed himself. He has a double standard about a lot of things because his emotions are fixed on ‘me’. In order to grow, he will have to embrace his Libra Earth qualities, learning his partner’s needs matter as much as his own and that fairness and balance are important to his own long-term happiness.
Going the extra mile will make him feel special – he wants to feel like he matters, so show him that he does by giving him gifts that are meant for him and him alone. Your Aries man is an original – there’s no one else quite like him, so don’t think for an instant that a Hallmark card or something you picked up at the mall is going to cut it. If anyone else has it, he probably doesn’t want it.
When he falls in love, one way or another, you will know. There are two extremes of his behavior in this situation. As a conqueror and a warrior he will feel the need to fight for love, for the heart of the one he desires and will stop at nothing for this cause. This means he will be persistent and repetitive in his attempts to win the attention of the subject of his affection. The other extreme would be a lost Aries man, incapable of understanding his own emotions. This could make him distant, like he has lost the ability to speak, or even angry because of the inability to show how he feels. Either way his behavior will be very obvious, and you will not miss the signals even if you didn’t know him that well.
If your sights are set on Aries, the last thing you want to do is chase him. Aries is all about the chase, but he prefers to be the hunter. He enjoys the art of pursuit, especially the first moves of flirting, and he’s very good at each stage of the chase. Enjoy the attention and don’t give in too soon or the excitement will be over once he catches up with you. The harder he must try to win your attention, the greater he’ll consider his win. After all, he’s number one and believes he deserves only the best.
Leo ladies, your passion could blind you to mundane realities. This exciting partnership often gets off to an amazing start, and then compensates for a lack of energy down the road with unnecessary drama. Provide him some peace once in a while.
Relationships are complex things, comprising hundreds of individual elements. Sun signs are one of these, however a detailed analysis of everything is required to find all the strong and weak areas. Please see the article on astrology and soulmates for more information on how astrology can be used to determine if someone is your soulmate.
The Aries man is hot, hot, hot – physically and emotionally. Even when not conventionally handsome, these guys possess a kind of bravado and raw sexuality that oozes off of them, often making them infuriatingly attractive. There’s an innate confidence in the way they carry themselves – an energetic saunter, a wry grin, a double entendre that will make you want to stand closer to them in spite of yourself. Sex with an Aries man can be quite an athletic affair – lots of sweat pouring off slick flanks, acrobatic positions, and possibly a bit of consensual rough play.
From just someone’s sun sign however we can only predict some aspects of their personality and it’s too much of a leap to try and predict behavior from just those. Astrology has fairly precise limits. This is an example of an area where sun signs are just too broad and clumsy to give an answer. A real compatibility reading is required to answer the question.
With his date, time and location of birth these other factors can be calculated for a complete picture of his personality. To explore this further please see my article on astrology compatibility readings.
The Aries personality is one of extremes – there is no middle of the road here – so get ready to be equally as clear about what you want, and to be sure that you are speaking your own mind. The Aries man wants a powerful match that he can respect, and doesn’t have a lot of time for passivity, mixed messages, or doublespeak – but once he’s decided he wants you, he’ll put up with a lot if he thinks he can attain the prize.
You’ll never meet a shy Aries, and though subtlety is not one of their strongest personality traits, they’ll keep you laughing and will always dazzle you with their dynamic energy, creativity, and wild moves on the dance floor. Aries men are mischievous but not devious, sometimes foolhardy but never fools, egotistic but not selfish, seriously sexy, and extremely fun to be around.
When in love, these men can be possessed by a fleeting temper that can flare up unexpectedly. But they don’t tend to stay mad for long – unless you really cross them, in which case, you’re pretty much dead to them. That combustibility can implode a romance and create a tendency to burn bridges. Are you compatible with your Aries man? Find out here.
This is always a hard question to answer, as one person’s idea of kinky can be very different to someone else’s. Individuals also vary a lot, so this is a bad area to generalize in. All things being equal though, Aries men are amongst the more kinky, yes.
The danger for an Aries in a relationship is being too controlling and confrontational. They need to consciously curb their desire to battle and win. More specifically, they need to learn how to lose when fighting someone they love. It may sound like a quote from Sun Tzu, but in love they need to learn the art of ‘winning by appearing to lose’.
The endless conversation and social entanglements will bind you two. He may not see the Gemini woman’s dual nature as quite honest, and you will have to avoid mistaking his concrete reality as a lack of intellect.
The Cancerian woman should avoid the trap of assuming his single-mindedness is something to be stereotyped. Compartmentalize him at your own risk. Be open to adventure and understand that he does not want to stay home every night.
Speaking up about your worldview will make him much more interested in you, Pisces woman. The fact that you two share a common bond that runs this deep should make your pursuit of the Ram that much easier.
Don’t be surprised, however, when their private persona reveals more vulnerability than you might have expected. Underneath that bombastic bravado, a childlike naiveté can cause them to end up with hurt feelings that are often masked by humor. It can be hard to keep up with their rapidfire wit, flair for grand gestures, and impressive libidos – so prepare to do a little stamina training in those areas if you have one of these fine fellows in your life!
Online relationships and long distance relationships have unique challenges. One of these is that you get to see one side of someone very clearly: their personality. You don’t however get to see anything about other factors such as sexual attraction. My compatibility reports address this by scoring all factors alongside each other so you can see the whole picture, with any strong or weak areas highlighted. To explore this further please see my article on online relationships.
Let’s start with a disclaimer: you might not like what you hear. Or, you might just shout “finally!” The Aries man has a very specific, grand and demanding vision for his ultimate relationship. In life, he orders everything customized to his tastes, and those tastes are very particular. He may not subconsciously realize that human beings, imbued with things like personalities and free will, can’t conform to his fantasies on demand. He’d rather just find that “needle in the haystack” relationship, the impossible dream come true. When he finds that, he gives it every ounce of his being. He turns off the selfish switch and pours on the giving. So why would he do that for just anyone?
They also have to make a conscious effort to look around to see other people’s feelings and desires, it doesn’t happen automatically for them. If you’re the sensitive type, then it’s fair to say you may get your feelings hurt occasionally, though it probably won’t be intentional.
This kind of self-absorption isn’t coming from a truly narcissistic place, but from an honest self-assurance of his own capability and all-around awesomeness. It’s true that Mars-ruled Aries men are good at what they do, and they’re not shy about standing in the spotlight.
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