This is not the sign of a homebody, so don’t expect the living space of the Aries man to be welcoming or comfortable. It works for them, and they have it all arranged the way they like it, but concessions might not be made for the desires of anyone else. There may just be one place setting or chair at the table, or one pillow on the bed. It’s not that they didn’t think of you, it’s just that they often don’t think of home as a place to share, or even really a place where they want to spend too much time – not with all the exciting things to do and see out in the world.
Ruled by the planet Mars, the Aries men move through the world on the their own terms and pace, and that is a major reason why some people find it too challenging to keep up with them. However, if you learn to accept their peculiarities, getting along with them will be a lot easier. Let’s go through some basic characteristics of the Aries men one by one.
Let’s start with a disclaimer: you might not like what you hear. Or, you might just shout “finally!” The Aries man has a very specific, grand and demanding vision for his ultimate relationship. In life, he orders everything customized to his tastes, and those tastes are very particular. He may not subconsciously realize that human beings, imbued with things like personalities and free will, can’t conform to his fantasies on demand. He’d rather just find that “needle in the haystack” relationship, the impossible dream come true. When he finds that, he gives it every ounce of his being. He turns off the selfish switch and pours on the giving. So why would he do that for just anyone?
Don’t be surprised, however, when their private persona reveals more vulnerability than you might have expected. Underneath that bombastic bravado, a childlike naiveté can cause them to end up with hurt feelings that are often masked by humor. It can be hard to keep up with their rapidfire wit, flair for grand gestures, and impressive libidos – so prepare to do a little stamina training in those areas if you have one of these fine fellows in your life!
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Aries lives up to his birthright of being the first born of the zodiac. This comes through in his need to always be number one in your life. If he ever feels as though he isn’t your number one, he’ll be compelled to find someone else to give him that first place status. What you may view as needing to have his ego petted is simply his need for validation. It’s tough being the first sign of the zodiac, so cut him some slack whenever you feel he’s being a bit too demanding of your time. Pause long enough to give him the loving kiss or reassuring hug. That’s really all he needs, but he does need them more often than other sun signs.
An Aries man lives for adrenaline, change, excitement, and novelty – so if you want to give him gifts, choose skydiving lessons, martial arts classes, or an exciting surprise vacation to somewhere he’s never been before. Surprises of all kinds are welcome here – the Ram is a sign who actually enjoys being caught a little off-guard, and will totally respect you for being able to pull off a surprise party without him finding out.
In your care and treatment of this special man, you need to be sure to pepper your physical demonstrations with a lot of sincere words. Everyone needs to hear those loving words, but Aries has a deeper need than other signs. Don’t be stingy with the praise. Just make sure you’re sincere because Aries has a built-in radar for insincerity. If he suspects you’re playing him, all you’ll see is the dust as he takes off on his motorcycle or in his sports car.
The Aries personality is one of extremes – there is no middle of the road here – so get ready to be equally as clear about what you want, and to be sure that you are speaking your own mind. The Aries man wants a powerful match that he can respect, and doesn’t have a lot of time for passivity, mixed messages, or doublespeak – but once he’s decided he wants you, he’ll put up with a lot if he thinks he can attain the prize.
Conquests can turn into a matter of pride or a competition, but Aries men can be easily bored and require constant stimulation. The best way to turn on an Aries is to just completely ignore them – but beware! That kind of rebuff won’t often get you a second chance. These partners may truly be suited better to polyamory, so keep that in mind if you’re wanting to settle down and get cozy for the long haul.
Confrontational, short-tempered, egoistic and controlling, the Aries men rarely admit their shortcomings and are not so keen rectifying their mistakes. Besides, their demanding attitude creates pressure on their relationships, causing irreparable damage at times. The Aries men know how to play with words in order to get what they want. While it is a positive trait to some extent, it also makes them manipulative.
If you want to be with Aries for the long haul, you’ll have to embrace his chosen lifestyle. Does that mean he wants everything on his terms? Well, everything that matters to him. We know tons of Aries men who are in long-term relationships, even married, but live in separate homes from their partners. Some even have open relationships, or some need that requires an “understanding” between you. One bi-curious Aries man agreed to marry his longtime girlfriend, but she had to allow him to have one “boys’ night” where he cuddled or made out with a man. How she put up with it, we don’t know—in this case, he threw a fit and threatened to walk unless he got his way. She decided to put up or shut up. If what’s good for the Aries goose ain’t good for the gander, he’d sooner fly away than change his migratory habits.
Everything sharp, red colored and hot will be a good fit. If he doesn’t already have a collection, you can always buy him a Swiss knife, a set of tools, a hunter’s hat, a flame thrower or a pair of sexy boxers. He will be happy if you show how masculine and strong he is, and give him something practical to use. Don’t obsess about his presents if you will have any resulting expectations – he will never obsess about yours.
Aries is the sign of the fiery, rebellious personality, so be prepared to expect the unexpected with them – in their interests, personal perspectives, and even in their occasionally flamboyant dress sense. They don’t want to be part of the conformist herd and will find a way to set themselves apart and stand out from the crowd.
Home is a place to crash, to change clothes, and maybe to roll in the hay – so don’t be surprised if your Aries paramour invites himself over to your place much more often. In fact, you may never see his space at all, unless you happen to share it with him. In which case, get ready to finish up the dishes he started to do before he got bored and moved on to something else, and make sure that wet laundry gets into the dryer before it starts to mildew. He’ll definitely begin a chore with great enthusiasm, but often get distracted by something new that absolutely needs doing before the first thing is ever completed.
The Aries man is a mixture of fearless warrior and undisciplined child. Aries is one of the easiest signs to understand, these are action people, extroverted and assertive. They want to be in charge, the boss, the hunter, the instigator. They are typically confident, fiery, bold, spontaneous and independent.
This is a man who will appreciate sexy clothes and underwear, the bolder the better. If you’ve been looking for someone to model those impractical slinky outfits for, this is the guy! He enjoys being the pursuer, so once you’re looking suitably sexy for him, being demure, timid and shy will score major additional points.
Aries can be jealous, and though he will try his best not to show it, he is not good at hiding his feelings. At root, he is terribly insecure and needs a lot of attention and positive reinforcement. Deeply competitive, he is an alpha male (or sometimes an alpha wannabe) who can’t stand the thought another man might get the love, sex, and attention that belongs to him. Yes, he is possessive, but he doesn’t want to be possessed himself. He has a double standard about a lot of things because his emotions are fixed on ‘me’. In order to grow, he will have to embrace his Libra Earth qualities, learning his partner’s needs matter as much as his own and that fairness and balance are important to his own long-term happiness.
Aries is a sign which sometimes gets bad press in this area. Being bold and spontaneous does have it’s disadvantages here. If they decide to cheat, then they typically can do so easier than most other signs. With that said, they are no more likely to want to cheat than any other sign. Whether they love their partner or not is the key factor. If they do, they are totally loyal. If they don’t.. then all bets are off.
The danger for an Aries in a relationship is being too controlling and confrontational. They need to consciously curb their desire to battle and win. More specifically, they need to learn how to lose when fighting someone they love. It may sound like a quote from Sun Tzu, but in love they need to learn the art of ‘winning by appearing to lose’.
No advice will ever apply to every Aries man as they are all unique in various ways. I specialize in offering tailored advice based on your unique personality and his together, as one without the other isn’t nearly as useful. My astrology readings solve real relationship problems for real people every day. For more information please see the article on relationship advice.
The tension you feel around the Ram is the scent of something taboo. Look deeper, Libra woman, and you will see that all of the traits you share have a taint of the forbidden about them, hence the magnetic attraction between you two despite all warnings.
This is always a hard question to answer, as one person’s idea of kinky can be very different to someone else’s. Individuals also vary a lot, so this is a bad area to generalize in. All things being equal though, Aries men are amongst the more kinky, yes.
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