Keep in mind, however, that the Cancer man is a little more withdrawn and may resist your affections if he believes that you’re coming on too fast. Inviting him back to your place for a meal the first time you meet him will probably end in rejection. Wait until you have already established some sort of bond with him before you extend an invitation into your home.
Cancer is a highly sensitive and intuitive sign, always aware of the needs and feelings of others. Unless they’re with an equally intuitive and sensitive lover however they need to be very communicative and open (which they typically aren’t) or there’s a danger of them feeling that others can understand them, but simply choose not to care.
Hello Hopelessly Confused! Thank you for your comment, and I’m sorry it’s taken so long for me to get a reply to ya. Finally got a newerish computer. So, now that I’m back, just in case you’re still hoping for some of my thoughts, or if someone else comes a long in search of the same info, here’s what I have for you, from both my experience and my cancer man’s thoughts.
He wants to have his cake and eat it, too. If that means baking it himself, hand him an apron and a Mixmaster. The Cancer man’s ideal match is a woman who can make him laugh and think, who’s outwardly simple with layers of depth, and—most important—who’s always by his side when he needs her. He wants a willing companion who also has her own life, but not so much that it competes with his. A co-pilot won’t work, but a sexy, solid first mate will do just fine.
In later seasons, it is revealed that he is a member of a group known as the Syndicate, a shadowy organization within the United States government. The episode “Two Fathers” reveals his birthname or alias as C.G.B. Spender, and that he was formerly married to Cassandra Spender, with whom he had a son, Jeffrey Spender. He recruits FBI Special Agent Diana Fowley to be a subordinate of his because she has a close relationship with Mulder. In “One Son”, Jeffrey finds out that his father, the Smoking Man, forced his mother Cassandra to undergo medical treatments that led to several nervous breakdowns during his childhood years. When the Smoking Man finds out, he seemingly kills Jeffrey. Knowing of the colonization plan, the Alien rebels return to Earth to try to persuade the Syndicate to join their side against their war with the Colonists. Not believing in the strength of the Alien rebels, the Syndicate members meet at El Rico Air Base to be transported to a spaceship to survive the colonization. However, the rebels appear instead of the Colonists and kill all remaining chief members of the Syndicate. Together with Fowley, the Smoking Man escapes the destruction of the Syndicate. Later in the sixth season, there is more evidence that suggested that the Smoking Man is Mulder’s biological father. Eventually in “The Sixth Extinction II: Amor Fati”, Fowley comes in disagreement with him. Because of his plans to kill Mulder, Fowley helps Scully in her investigation to locate Mulder, which leads to her death. After the destruction of the Syndicate, the Smoking Man starts to operate as he wishes. However, his cancer resurfaces, and he begins using a wheelchair and has a tracheotomy. In the end, Alex Krycek and Marita Covarrubias betray him in the episode “Requiem”, throwing him down a flight of stairs, where they presume him to be dead.
The Smoking Man is involved in the Syndicate, a shadow organization which includes members of the United States government that exists to hide from the public the fact that aliens are planning to colonize Earth. The Smoking Man often ruthlessly protects the secrets of the conspiracy, and serves as the main antagonist to Mulder, who has an equally consuming devotion to reveal the truth in the first seven seasons. His stated justification is a desire to prevent the alien colonization for as long as possible; in the episode “One Breath”, he tells Mulder that he is in the conspiracy (which he calls “the game”) because he believes that the secrets he keeps could, if publicly revealed, threaten the social order that preserves society: “If people were to know of the things that I know… it would all fall apart”. He is at times shown working towards that goal, particularly in connection with developing a vaccine to protect people from the “black oil”, a parasitic agent which the alien Colonists use to propagate themselves.
Present a traditional feminine aura. Most Cancer men are attracted to women who are highly feminine in a very traditional way. Subconsciously, a Cancer male will be looking for a woman who fits his image of the ideal wife and mother. Everything from your appearance to your mannerisms should ooze femininity.
Ancient lore suggests some of this may be due to the sign’s empathic abilities. I’ve personally gone on wilderness trips with other guys and watched wild animals, like squirrels, rabbits, coyote and deer walk right up to these guys without an ounce of fear.
A Cancerian man can make a wonderful long-term partner for the right woman. He’s ruled by emotion and matters of the heart, and not by his intellect. Because of this, he’s usually very affectionate, thoughtful, and intuitive of the feelings of others, especially of those he cares about. Home and family are of utmost importance to a Crab, and he can be fiercely protective. Cancer thrives on stability, security, and comfort. You’ll always feel loved, safe, and well cared for with a Cancer partner. Most Cancerian men make faithful, supportive husbands and kind, patient fathers. His relationships are well tended, and he’s often incredibly romantic, while having a great sense of humor.
He is tender, sweet and doesn’t talk too much. Although his sensitivity can stay hidden for most of the time, he will show it when it matters and this guaranties relationships that last, if he doesn’t underestimate himself and choose wrong partners. He is genuinely interested in his partner’s life, rarely says things just to get someone to bed, and is usually a safe choice to start a peaceful family with. On the other hand, he can be needy and insecure, and some more energized signs could see him as weak and boring.
Fiercely loyal and protective, he will do anything to ensure the happiness and security of his loved ones. Cancer men are amongst the most loyal IF they love their partner. If they don’t love their partner then all bets are off (the same as for every other sign).
His sign is ruled by the Moon, and like the Moon, his emotions shift, change, ebb, and flow in cycles. One thing that doesn’t change is his vulnerability: He wants your unwavering love and affection and doesn’t like to share. If in doubt, he can be jealous and controlling. Some might even call him clingy, insecure, needy, moody, or boring. He’s also a bit reclusive so if you prefer going out and socializing with a crowd, you should probably leave him at home.
As an aside, Cancers (men and women) do particularly well when working from home so they can be close to family. However, if the male is single and lives alone, he should be working outside of the home.
Take the example of our Virgo friend Nancy, a wealthy executive and world traveler. On her third date, she invited her Cancer beau Edward to her tasteful, art-filled New York City apartment. Rather than marvel at her rare book collection and African pottery, Edward noticed two things: that Nancy’s living room air conditioner didn’t work, and she didn’t have an anti-slip pad under her tiny kitchen rug.
If you are looking to learn more about Cancer men, there are several resources available online. One book that I highly recommend is: Cancer Sun Sign Series. What’s nice about this read is the straight-forward, easy to understand format the author uses.
Until the ninth season episode “William”, the Smoking Man is presumed dead. It is learned that his attempted murder of his son failed, which led him to subject his son to terrible experiments. In the series finale, “The Truth”, Mulder and Scully travel through remote New Mexico and reach a pueblo where a “wise man” reputedly lives: he is, in fact, the Smoking Man. His condition has worsened since his disappearance, and he lives a primitive life in hiding from the “New” Syndicate. After taunting Mulder and Scully, he reveals to Scully what Mulder already knew, that the alien re-colonization of Earth is set for December 22, 2012. Shortly after, Smoking Man is again apparently killed by a rocket shot from a helicopter ordered by Knowle Rohrer.
I am and a relationship with a cancer male and I am a cancer female our birthdays are three days apart I just don’t understand him at all he does not have a tight bond with his mother who has always been in his life he lies a lot cheats misleds me I mean this relationship has had me on the point of a nervous breakdown cause I just don’t get it one min he loves me then he turns his back its like out of sight out of mind he cheats flirts with other women still tries to have sex with all of his ex girlfriends in lies about it in these are the same women who cheated on him and dogged him as he say but if he doing this to me it has to be the other way around its weird because I am the complete opposite that he is someone please help my heart is breaking I am lost
When talking about your current family, focus on the maternal side. Talk about things you have learned from your mother or time you have recently spent with your mother. Cancer is a classic mama’s boy, and if you can show a love for your mother that rivals the love he has for his own, you can connect to him more easily.
Oftentimes with a Cancerian man, you’ll have to make the first move because they have such a fear of rejection. Show him that you care about the same things he does, such as home, family, beauty, and romance. Don’t come on too strong, but be somewhat aggressive in your pursuit. He needs to know that you’re really interested in him before he responds!
Try not to contradict him. Everyone is wrong sometimes, and the Cancer man is no exception. That said, since Cancers are so emotionally reactive, they tend to lash out when directly contradicted or corrected in a harsh manner.
Like Scorpio and Pisces, Cancer is a water sign and therefore gifted with empathic abilities. Being exposed to a bunch of people at once can be overwhelming. In turn, this causes the symbolic crab to retreat into his shell.
Cancer is a water sign and ruled over by the Moon. Your Cancer man is going to be most compatible with earth signs or other water signs, though it’s not unheard of for there to be epic romances between a Cancer man and a woman of air or fire nature.
Your Cancer will have his own unique personality traits. This article talks about sun signs, however there are many other factors. For example his moon sign determines his emotional personality which affects whether he is sensitive, romantic, loyal etc.
Occasionally, you should make it a point to demonstrate that you’ve been actively listening to him. Remember his birthday or any other special days he mentions to you. If he tells you about something he has going on at work in a few days, ask him how it went after the event passes.
I have been with a cancer man for two yrs.. before that we wer best frnds.. he was sure of us.. but he couldn’t give much time to me.. but he was very very sure of our future.. and then in aggression one day I said many wrong things to him then apologised many times but he says that he is not sure and for now he doesn’t think of our future.. and I hav told him that I really love him.. and sometimes the way he responds I feel that he still loves me.. but giving me a silent treatment… not confessing directly just saying that he isn’t sure.. and he doesn’t know whether does he feel for me or not… However, sometimes he calls by himself and comes near to my place and ask me to meet him.. I m not able to understand that what exactly does he want?
Hi, Virgo girl here, and I really like everything it says about Cancer, and I even had a Cancer boyfriend when I was a young teen (15) and I ended things with him because I was young still and unable to stay in a long-term relationship (I’m 47 now) but the qualities are pretty on point about what they are like in a relationship as long as they remain interested. I’ve seen some Cancer men and women in relationships and if someone else piques their interest, nothing holds them back, and the fact that they are involved with someone else doesn’t seem to matter much. They get lifted off the ground very easily like a “follow your nose” kind of thing. Its a scary thought that they could be here today and gone tomorrow and you are left with your heart in your hand as nothing is worse than healing a broken heart. And yes, its a part of life, but one I feel they seem to accept quite easily. It seems a bit cold to me. None of them ever did it to me but I’ve seen their tendency with this.
Listen. Cancer men are usually attracted to women who will share their feelings, but you’ll be even more attractive if you demonstrate a willingness to really listen to everything he says. He needs to open up at his own pace and may do so slowly, but if you want to become an attractive person in his eyes, you’ll need to be a trustworthy presence every step of the way.
The Cancer man knows exactly how to a take a woman into his Crabby grip and keep her there forever. We may be setting feminism back a few centuries by saying this, but damn, it feels good to have a man take care of you like he does. Of course, there’s thin line between security and smothering. When he sidles up from behind and puts his arms around your waist, you’ll either hope he never lets go, or make a mental note to call him if a choking victim needs the Heimlich maneuver.
As a word from a concerned friend, make sure you look into the rest of your and her natal charts. Take special care to pay attention to what your Mars and Venus signs are, as they will give you greater insight into your compatibility as lovers. I’m the first to admit that there is no “set in stone” rules to astrology, and you two could be the couple made by the stars. Just be careful, as if she isn’t the right partner for you, you’re going to find yourself going through years and years of struggle trying to let her go if you’re not a bit cautious now. You don’t have to immediately throw your heart at the first person who seems nice.
No advice will ever apply to every Cancer man as they are all unique in various ways. I specialize in offering tailored advice based on your unique personality and his together, as one without the other isn’t nearly as useful. My astrology readings solve real relationship problems for real people every day. For more information please see the article on relationship advice.
Home and Family-Oriented – The way to his heart is through his stomach… or his family. He is a bit of a home-body and invests a lot of thought and energy on (and time in) his home environment. His relatives are very important to him, so make sure you don’t ignore or insult them. Getting to know his family and friends is a great way to enter into the heart of his world.
If you’re interested in meeting a Cancer guy, frequent places that attract him. Because of Cancer’s creativity and appreciation for beauty, they often attend art exhibits, galleries, and museums. Arts and crafts supply stores are another good bet. You might also find one at a home improvement store, since they love the idea of making a comfortable and attractive home.
He is soft, loving, considerate, and nurturing to those he cares deeply for – but always remember that those born under the sign of the Crab have a hard shell to protect their vulnerable underbelly, and pincers to protect themselves when they feel attacked.
Indecisive – He wants strawberry. No, wait! Make that chocolate… or does he really want vanilla? Second thoughts will plague his decision-making, and if you can’t stand a man who takes forever to make up his mind or who would rather leave most decisions to you, then this guy is probably not for you.
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